Originally Posted by CharlotteMarie View Post
What is your personal view on giving a guy oral
I'm just curious. Some women like it and some can't stand the thought
Is it bad? Or complicated? Or nasty?
I see too many things even on reality television about oral
, and that's all you hear guys talk about really.
Is it better for them than actual sex
And also, your view on receiving?
My views on this... a complete 180 on the issue... I feel because of my repressive religious beliefs , I looked upon anything oral as "DIRTY' when I was younger, I associated it all with PORN sex, strippers ...not sure where these views got in my head, but they were there. I read a few christian books touching on sex, they probably only talked about intercourse. I was soooo very very wrong. I feel I wasted so many good years being mentally & sexually repressed in this area... but of course, during that, you don't realize it! Only looking back... can I see ...WOW...what a freaking shame!
I didn't give my husband a desirous exciting BJ until 19 yrs after we were married... Been hot for them ever since.
He used to try to give me oral and my mind was so full of "eewwww, how can he stand that", I couldn't imagine how that could be enjoyed, my mind completely blocking the pleasure...I remember it being ultra sensitive.... and I would push him away. After a while he stopped trying. I didn't realize then how this (my hangups) were hurting him, it was something he enjoyed. And of course my un-interest in getting intimate with his body like that... also it made him feel less loved somehow.
Now.. after getting this "dirty" nonsense out of my head and getting a fine secular healthy sexual education, I came to especially love, cherish and enjoy every moment of giving my husband this gift of pleasure...and I would even be UPSET if he didn't want to taste me in that way. Even though I can not "get off" like that...I still want it.
My husband prefers intercourse (if given a choice) ... only because he so loves when I "get mine"... sometimes even feeling selfish if I give him a BJ to the finish.... but how silly this is... because he LOVES those too.... it makes him feel especially loved & desired that I so WANT to go there now and so willingly , passionately .....even almost demandlingly. ha ha
Women can all grow in these things......I sure did !