I would have loved that. Dr Phil is right when he says if you want to turn your wife on, do the dishes. If I don't have to mentally check of all ether chores I have to do when I get home, I can think about what a hot **** my husband is and get excited for him.
It us totally possibles that tour wifely behavior turned your wife off though.
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SB, I think there might have been some other reasons your wife wanted out. I don't think you doing the chores was the reason.
I've heard Dr. Phil say this, too. And it's probably true with healthy wives. Now that I've realized I'm married to someone who probably has Borderline Personality Disorder, a lot of things from our past 18 years make sense.
I did the dishes a lot. And rather than turning her on, she would usually get angry with me. She had various reasons, but here are some of the tops: (1) When I'm doing dishes, I'm not spending time with her. Never mind that all she was doing was watching TV. If I didn't watch TV with her, she felt abandoned. (2) I didn't wash them the right way. If I didn't put the dirty dishes on the left of the sink and the clean ones to dry on the right, I was messing up her little system. Never mind that I might like having the clean ones drying on the left because there's more room there. If I put the dishes on the "wrong" side of the sink, I'd get a lecture. (3) I didn't put them in the right cupboard. I tried to, honestly. But sometimes I would put a plastic cup in the cupboard with the glass ones. OH MY GOSH the anguish that would cause!
Finally, I gave up. Let her wash her own damn dishes.
But in my case at least, Dr. Phil was full of crap. Me trying to help out was a major turnoff. Of course me NOT trying to help out is also a turnoff. Everything I do is a turnoff. Sigh....