Husband's personal hygiene is awful. pls help
Hi all, I am new here and looking for some advice. My husband showers Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, never on weekends. He brushes his teeth 4-5 times a week, also never on weekends. We don't kiss anymore because I am disgusted with his oral hygiene. He shaves about once or twice a month. We haven't had sex in 6 months because his showering habits gross me out. He took a shower last Friday morning, and put on a clean pair of underwear. On Saturday night, I noticed that he was still wearing the same pair of underwear, and there was a poop smear that had soaked through to the outside of his underwear. He went to bed, and wore the same pair of poopy underwear to a birthday party for a child on Sunday, again without showering. Then he wore them to bed again Sunday night and didn't change them until he showered this morning (monday) for work. Our bed smells disgusting! I am at my wits end. I have tried asking him nicely to shower more. I have tried nagging. I'm withholding sex, but not to be mean, just because I can't stand the idea of all the germs, poop, sweat, etc. down there. I have bought all different kinds of body wash, loofahs, shower poufs, different toothpastes and toothbrushes, etc. I have discussed the issue with him, but not recently. He said that he's always been like this, even before we were married. But honestly I don't remember it ever being so bad like this. We've been together 10 years, married for 4. Our son was diagnosed with autism last August, and he works very hard so I can stay home with our son. I know he is stressed, and likely in the stages of grief over the autism diagnosis, maybe a little depressed. We don't have health insurance, so we can't really get marriage counseling. Even when we still had insurance, he never went to therapy or showed any interest in it when I went. Sorry this is so long, but I'd appreciate any help you all can offer! Thank you in advance.