She's been defiant ever since I met her, and knows how to "close up" as soon as she realises I'm on to something. She is Christian so she views it as wrong yet admitted to me in the past that she has enjoyed sex with women and when I'm nice, she tells me rather graphic stories of her past lol!
Ok yada yada yada she prefers men sure, but she's still bi-IN-DENIAL... notices women way more than me, checks out their bodies on the beach or pool, comments on them, and to boot, the way she expressed her pleasure of her past experiences... darn! Even though she seems to need that bath even after remembering it... so I know a part of her doesn't like that about herself...
Yet, this has been my life-long ambition to make her admit it ever since she started denying to me that she's in fact bisexual! So what can I do? Besides it will help her accept more of herself and her past (which she still has difficulty at times despite forgiving herself and feeling forgiven due to her faith)
Or maybe she just won't admit it because she likes seeing me frustrated... she does that, meh...
I think it excites you more to think of your wife with another woman than it excites her.
If she doesn't want to admit it, maybe it's because it's not true.
Many women will talk about it with their husbands because they know it turns them on. I do this for my husband. He knows in reality we'd never include a third party into our sex lives, but he gets really turned on when I talk about how hot a woman is and what her and I would do to each other. I honestly have zero desire to do anything with another woman, but why not indulge my hubby with some sexy talk?
I think it excites you more to think of your wife with another woman than it excites her.
If she doesn't want to admit it, maybe it's because it's not true.
Many women will talk about it with their husbands because they know it turns them on. I do this for my husband. He knows in reality we'd never include a third party into our sex lives, but he gets really turned on when I talk about how hot a woman is and what her and I would do to each other. I honestly have zero desire to do anything with another woman, but why not indulge my hubby with some sexy talk?
It is a huge turn on for a lot of guys but don't pressure her. The best thing you can do is provide a trusting environment wherein you can talk to each other about anything sexual and she feels safe in doing so. If you do that then if its true it may very well come out one day.
Or maybe she just won't admit it because she likes seeing me frustrated... she does that, meh...
That's one possibility. Another possibility is that she's rejecting your labels and rejecting your little boxes for her because she thinks it's her job to define her own self, not you.
I'd agree with her.
In point of fact, I don't deal well with other people trying to define who I am. I'd divorce your butt over this if you kept it up.
I guess I would say that if she is bi, probably best to let it go and let her have her fantasies, unless it is something that bothers you so much you just can't live with it.
As long as she is staying faithful I guess it's ok. Never been with a woman; don't want to, but I do check them out for outfits and stuff.
As long as she doesn't want to bring another woman into your marriage, I would not worry about this. Sexuality is somewhat fluid, and just because she appreciates female beauty does not mean that she is going to act on her thoughts. That would be my only concern, what does she wants to do about those feelings?
I can relate to your situation Randomdude. I was able to get my woman to admit to me that she was bisexual after some hardships in our relationships.
She may be trying to hide those feelings from you and even to herself for many possible reasons. The thing that worked for me and my relationship was to let her know that I didn't care that she was bi or even attracted to other men. I reassured her that I would be there for her and that I deal with the same issues in regards to other woman and that we could talk about them openly among-st ourselves. I tried to relay to her that although I haven't and will not cheat that I am attracted to other woman. For her I wanted her to understand that just because you had certain feelings towards someone else doesn't mean you had to act on them also.
You should try telling her something about yourself that she may not know. Maybe that will open her up to you. Right now she may be fighting those feelings internally let alone letting those feelings be known to others.
Oh come on, it's not like we're fighting over this, this is more like our banter from time to time lol
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As long as she doesn't want to bring another woman into your marriage, I would not worry about this. Sexuality is somewhat fluid, and just because she appreciates female beauty does not mean that she is going to act on her thoughts. That would be my only concern, what does she wants to do about those feelings?
Well she doesn't want to do anything about it, and it's not like I'm going to get her to do it, I just want her to admit it heh cause it's so blatantly obvious yet she denies it to my face lol!
She admits to having enjoyed sex with women, just not being bisexual! she's had quite a few experiences with women in the past and looked rather fondly of it too, so it's not a case of just turning me on. Besides she doesn't shut up about women we see sometimes lol
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Another possibility is that she's rejecting your labels and rejecting your little boxes for her because she thinks it's her job to define her own self, not you.
Yup that sounds alot like wifey lol
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You should try telling her something about yourself that she may not know. Maybe that will open her up to you. Right now she may be fighting those feelings internally let alone letting those feelings be known to others.
I did =/
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Why keep bringing up something she either regrets or is ashamed of?
Well it's just banter, but it has a long-term goal = she should never have to regret or be ashamed of anything, especially not with me
She'll accept it when she is ready to do so and when it feels safe to do so. Pressuring her will only interfere with that process. Don't worry about it so much. Just let her be.
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