My husband and I were having this conversation this morning via chat! He works overseas for one month at a time, so while he is in a whole other country, we spend a lot of time on the phone, email and recently, live chatting. It used to be just talking about how our day went, bills, mundane stuff. Over the last six months, we have started talking a lot more about our feelings, emotions, sex, etc.
Well, this morning, I admitted to him that I was quite revved up yesterday, enough to have two solo go's at it. He wanted to know what had me so worked up.
I explained to him that the emotional connection that we have been creating and rebuilding makes me more prone to being in the mood. We have been talking openly about sex so much that at this point, I have a hair trigger!
It's the fact that he is sharing the things that make him happy, the things that turn him on...it gives me a sense of confidence to know these things, because I can be sure that when we see each other, I can enact all the things that drive him crazy. That is a huge aphrodisiac for me.
I can tell you a few other small things he has done in the past that had me going so hard that I was ready to jump him the minute he got home!
--Once he sent me an explicit email describing how he would love to see me dressed when he got home. He told me to go shopping for specific lingerie. I was incredibly turned on the entire time I was out looking for what he requested. Again, the knowledge that he was thinking of me , desiring to see me in it, and knowing that he would be turned on when he saw me in it...that was the biggest part.
--Similar situation, he sent me sex toy shopping once. Describing the kind of vibrator/dildo he wanted to be able to use on me when he got home. Shopping for that was an incredible turn on.
--Anytime he takes the time to send me a sexy email, that's a big deal to me. But that is also because this is new for him. It has taken years for him to be comfortable enough to do this. We have been married for 17 years.
--I would love it if he were comfortable reading some of my erotic stories out loud to me, but I know that would be way out of his comfort zone to say those kinds of things out loud. I think I would like it so much just because it's not something he would normally do.
Hope that helps some. Way to go for thinking of it this way and being proactive. It helps!