I've posted here a couple of times and gotten some good feedback from this forum. Real brief, SO had EA last fall which I've discussed before. From time to time, when I'm feeling down I start thinking about what was said and done during the EA. The morning she said she was going to "spend the night with friends" we had a huge fight that went something like "do you care if I go" to which I said, "yes" I do care. Anyway, she made a point to take a bag with clothes etc. to visit "friends". Long story short I freaked out and texted and called her like 15 times during the night and she wouldn't answer. I knew she wasn't with friends. Anyway, she finally called me back and ended up NOT spending the night anywhere. I found out later she was at her Male friends house. Anyway, what bothers me now is what if I had not gone ballistic and kept calling her- would she have spent the night with him? Also, even bigger thing I think about is the morning of our fight, which I think she provoked, I told her I was struggling because I was finishing school degree, and sibling had advanced stage cancer. The thing I think about now is how ROTTEN she was for going ANYWAY, after I had told her I was struggling. It just won't leave my mind. All she said was that "you are worried about her aren't you?" referring to sibling with cancer. And then proceeded that night to go anyway. I can't seem to get over this. HELP! We are trying to work things out, but this seems really awful to me. Any advice welcome from a woman's perspective.