Can women be friends with a guy/girl knowing the person likes them or has liked them in the past? If a woman has told a girl/guy that she is not interested in them, is it normal for you to still want to pursue/accept a purely platonic relationship with this other person?
I guess coming from a guy, if I liked a girl and she told me she only wants to be friends I would not want to be her friend. Do women feel the same way?
I've been married for 20 years so it's been a while since I've been in this situation. But yes I could do it easily. They pursued the friendship though not me. I would never do that to someone who claimed to like me romantically. It would have to be their idea.
Back when I was single I had several guy friends that were interested in me but I didn't feel the same way about them and we ended up good friends. One guy used to come over to my house after his dates to hang out with me. Another was like a brother to me. He used to write me daily after he joined the Air Force. These friendships all ended when THEY got married and their wives didn't approve. And I 100% supported that. I'd want the same thing.
No, because every male I speak to ends up asking for sex in the next week. I tried my damnedest to be friends with my husbands guy friends when he wanted us to hang out together and all they would do is try sexting me and one even in front of my husband asked if I wanted to go to his place, do drugs and screw.
It's just impossible to be friends with someone who is attracted to you. Even if they say they have it in check, they still think about it all the time and they've admitted that to me before. I think that's one of the reasons my husband hates me now, which isn't my fault. I already asked him if he wanted me to get smashed into the ground by the ugly tree and put on 100lbs so he could have 'better friends'. Putting on the 100lbs didn't help by the way so I'm taking it off again.
OK, I think I understand. My wife dosent feel like it is a problem I think. She looks at it like, Well i told you I am married and I am not interested. So if you choose to lead yourself on and I just want to be friends then oh well. My wife is a very friendly person and thinks once she tells someone how she feels, she can not control how they react.
OK, I think I understand. My wife dosent feel like it is a problem I think. She looks at it like, Well i told you I am married and I am not interested. So if you choose to lead yourself on and I just want to be friends then oh well. My wife is a very friendly person and thinks once she tells someone how she feels, she can not control how they react.
This is why couples need to talk and face life together and not act as free agents. Our spouses can see things in our relationships with others that we have tunnel vision over. It is called looking out for one another. That is a level of intimacy and trust many couples never acheive.
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Me & my husband have single friends, a couple of my gf's and a couple single guys. I've tried to matchmake them a couple times... almost worked, but fell apart. Darn!
They are friends with both of us..equally.. we are 1, united.... and they only come around when we are both here together, as it should be. Or they might go out with us on occasion to plays, concerts, etc.
There have been a few occasions but it was special circumstances..where this guy friend was at my house while my husband was at work. He has never been disrespectful in a way that spoke to me - like I needed to "hide" anything from my husband...ever.
If I found myself single, he'd likely jump at being more than friends with me...well accually he wouldn't cause he knows me.... It would never never happen. We enjoy "Debating" alot... many issues, religion, we have differing view points & enjoy sharpening each other's mind. At one time he wanted to be a Preacher.. but he never realized his dreams. We've been friends for over 20 long years... he is safe.
He always tells us he considers me & my husband his best friends. And because of his debating skills, I do highly enjoy talking to him, even more than many of my gf's. It's never been an issue for us.
In my experience, being just friends with someone who has feelings for you always creates drama. If they never express or try to act on those feelings it could work, since what you don't know doesn't hurt you. But I have had guy friends in the past that were relentless, despite repeated boundary setting on my part. I think in general, if you're married, you are better off having friends of the same sex unless they are a mutual friend between you and your spouse. Posted via Mobile Device
My man and I have an agreement: No friends of the opposite gender, period. Coworker relationship is fine. Facebook friendship with old high school opposite genders is fine (NO EXES, though). We avoid situations where we'd be alone with a member of the opposite gender: no rides home, no lunch "dates", etc.
Someone that has "feelings"--same category as EXES (unless children were involved)--no contact other than what might occur naturally. i.e. -high school reunion, bump into at Starbucks...NO exchange of phone numbers or email. No "we should get together sometime", no chit chat.
Oh, and FULL DISCLOSURE should contact occur naturally:
HIM: I ran into "Scheming *****" at Walmart today.
ME: Really, what's she been up to?
HIM: Don't know, hid behind the coke machine til she walked past.
ME: I love you so much.
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Can women just be friends???? 
