Re: Afraid of Outcome...
Sounds like you guys need someone else to step in and help you. Marriage counseling sounds like a useful thing at this point.
Try reading "His Needs Her Needs" and "The Five Love Languages", too. Both are good books that might allow you guys to find a vocabulary through which you can reach each other. Also, look on the Marriage Builders website and see if that offers you some helpful material. I thought it was a very useful site.
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