05-05-2012, 09:45 AM
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: On the cusp of something great!
| | Re: What happens when her dreams never come true
She needs to quit self-medicating with alcohol.
Those days when she is depressed is filled with silence and alcohol
It's not doing her body (with or without a pregnancy) any good and may be fueling her depression. She needs to get a full-time job.
She needs to focus on something OTHER THAN potential pregnancy all the time. A job would (a) help lift her depression, (b) enable her to find a healthier way to cope than alcohol, (c) bring in additional money for in-vitro or adoption if you decide to go those routes. Have you checked into private-adoption attorneys? Some states have attorneys who specialize in placing newborns (mothers are usually single and very young.) It may cost more, but the waiting time may be shorter and they ONLY place newborns.
Worked with a woman who had tried, with her husband, for YEARS to become pregnant. They finally adopted a little boy. On the little boy's FIRST BIRTHDAY, she gave birth to their daughter. It happens.
The state you're wife is in now (depressed and drinking) is NEVER going to be conducive to becoming pregnant. At least with a job and other things to focus on, the chances of becoming pregnant have increased (as have the financial resources to explore additional options.)