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post #16 of 19 (permalink) Old 05-03-2012, 10:21 AM Thread Starter
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Sorry, do you mean you 'held back' as in didn't have sex during the week she is supposed to ovulate? Because that's the opposite if what you should be doing. I may be misunderstanding though.

Are her periods regular? To give the best chance of conception, the woman's menstrual cycle should be between 28 and 35 days with day one being the first day of her period. If her cycles are very long or irregular she may not be ovulating at all. Although Clomid can kick start ovulation it also turns the cervical mucous acidic and hostile to sperm. There's a good book called Taking Charge of your Fertility that you can see here, http://www.tcoyf.com/. It shows how to identify fertile times in your cycle through watching for cervical mucous changes. Once you get the hang of it it's pretty easy.

I had very long cycles before we conceived my first daughter, but no obvious reason for it, according to the doctors I saw. I started seeing an acupuncturist and Chinese herbalist and brought my cycles from 80/120 days down to 35. My daughter was then conceived straight away.

Is your wife a healthy weight? To much body fat stops ovulation, as well as too little.

There's lots you can do. Start exploring other treatment options, such as acupuncture and naturopathy. And I agree with others, encourage her yo get a job and lay off the alcohol. That won't be doing her any good at all.
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Taking charge of your fertility is the book she bought. And to clear up some stuff i try to build up my sperm for the week she is ovolating so that our chances are better. We watched a show last nite and it was talking about stress and high blood pressure being the cause of aome women not getting pregnant so i mentioned that maybe we should try and get her blood pressure down since we know that she has high blood pressure.
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Re: What happens when her dreams never come true

Those days when she is depressed is filled with silence and alcohol
She needs to quit self-medicating with alcohol. It's not doing her body (with or without a pregnancy) any good and may be fueling her depression.

She needs to get a full-time job. She needs to focus on something OTHER THAN potential pregnancy all the time. A job would (a) help lift her depression, (b) enable her to find a healthier way to cope than alcohol, (c) bring in additional money for in-vitro or adoption if you decide to go those routes. Have you checked into private-adoption attorneys? Some states have attorneys who specialize in placing newborns (mothers are usually single and very young.) It may cost more, but the waiting time may be shorter and they ONLY place newborns.

Worked with a woman who had tried, with her husband, for YEARS to become pregnant. They finally adopted a little boy. On the little boy's FIRST BIRTHDAY, she gave birth to their daughter. It happens.

The state you're wife is in now (depressed and drinking) is NEVER going to be conducive to becoming pregnant. At least with a job and other things to focus on, the chances of becoming pregnant have increased (as have the financial resources to explore additional options.)
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Re: What happens when her dreams never come true

I agree that she need to stop the alcohol and needs to find a job.

The alcohol, in realtion to this....

Have you ever tried to look in to dietary changes. Ie- what foods would change the acidity levels in her secretions? I think the alcohol might have something also to do with that.. IF her ph balance is what is killing off the sperm???
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Re: What happens when her dreams never come true

I tried for 10 years to get pregnant. Changed my diet, took pills, etc. Doctors could find nothing wrong with me...no explanation.

I finally gave up and got together with a man that did not want kids. Less than 2 years later... BAM... pregnant. For some people, it just takes a LONG time for the planets to align to make a baby
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