05-06-2012, 11:49 AM
Join Date: Aug 2010
| | Re: Wife wants me to cut contact with a female friend. Women's opinions?
Funny how this woman went from being "a female friend" to someone you almost married all in the same post. Why didn't you honestly identify this woman? We don't even know you. You used to have the hots for this woman and I'm guessing she either was a sexual partner or you wanted her to be. The fact that you described your fiance' as "a female friend" indicates an initial deliberate attempt to hide and minimize the relationship. If your wife were privately chatting up a guy who used to nail her or who used to be her fiance', you'd come unglued. You waited until the 4the paragraph to describe the real issue at hand, spending the initial 3 on fluff. You notice you said "I don't like lying". You didn't say you don't lie or you don't believe in lying. Your words indicate you do lie or conceal thruth from your wife frequently but you fear detection. You also said you didn't tell your wife the truth because she didn't ask. I don't even need to elaborate on this becuse it's an obvious sign of guilt for anyone. You actually took your wife to have dinner with this woman and you didn't tell your wife that you and this woman used to be fiances? You use the qualifier "basically" before "called off marriage" (notice the absence of the pronoun "I")?
This would tell any interrogator that whatever might have happened, you didn't call off the marriage. It may be more likely that you never had intentions of marrying her but you allowed this woman to believe so. Another thing I find interesting is that you said, "So later i married my wife and she is a woman i could truly love and so we married." You didn't say your wife IS the woman you truly love and you didn't say your wife WAS a woman you could love. How long have you been married? If it's been over a year, why did you start contacting a former fiance' a year ago?