she won't shave her legs (symptom of larger power/controll issues?)
Her leg hair is starting to bug me.. I've asked her to shave it on numerous occasions and she just ignores me and writes me off. I just think hairy legs on woman is... kind of gross.
It is wrong to ask your wife to do this every once in awhile?
I understand she works hard, is pressed for free time and is often exhausted.. however, it would be nice if she would make the effort simply because I've asked her to.
Refusing to do this sends me the message that my requests are not important to her, and that to me is the bigger issue.
ETA: some of you guys really know how to get to the heart of things...
It is gross. She doesn't want to and she's giving you excuses. I shave in the shower DAILY and have been for years. Takes an extra 5-10 minutes tops. My husband also shaves daily. It's part of grooming that's important.
How would she feel about a leg wax? I would LOVE if my H did that for me because we have the smallest shower known to man and it is a task, but I do it lol. Posted via Mobile Device
No, it's not wrong to ask your wife to do this occasionally. I don't shave every time i am in the shower... the hair doesn't grow back fast enough for that! LOL But no, there is nothing wrong with requesting that. What excuse does she give for not doing it?
No, it's not wrong to ask your wife to do this occasionally. I don't shave every time i am in the shower... the hair doesn't grow back fast enough for that! LOL But no, there is nothing wrong with requesting that. What excuse does she give for not doing it?
She just hates doing it, it's time consuming, she's tired, she worked all day, we have a toddler, etc.
Precisely the kind of excuses she would not take from me.
Is she into the NATURAL look? I know some people who are into being natural don't shave or put on perfume, deodorant, ect. Perhaps she may be going through that natural phase? (I only shave once a week since it's a week before any hair grows back lol. )
maybe she trying to make herself unattractive so she don't have to have sex with you.
her excuses are bogus.Time to have the talk about how keeping your attractive for your partner is important.brushing your teeth and wiping your a$$ takes time also but I'll bet she dose those.
Is she into the NATURAL look? I know some people who are into being natural don't shave or put on perfume, deodorant, ect. Perhaps she may be going through that natural phase? (I only shave once a week since it's a week before any hair grows back lol. )
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Does she ask/require you to shave anything?
I don't think that's it at all.. she is otherwise fastidiously clean. I've changed my showering habits for her; before I moved in I was a morning showerer.. she insists that I take showers at night instead and for the most part I've complied, for obvious reasons! She tends to be critical of my hygiene in general, which is really unfair because I'm a clean guy; I shower once or twice daily brush teeth, wear deo, etc. I really think she has a heightened sense of smell.
She is also OCD and spends all kinds of time plucking hair from other places - including my ears!- and admits this is one of her OCD quirks. So there is lots I don't understand, apparently!
She just hates doing it, it's time consuming, she's tired, she worked all day, we have a toddler, etc.
Precisely the kind of excuses she would not take from me.
I had a toddler when I had my baby...and I STILL managed to shave my legs. Excuses, plain and simple. But if it truly bothers you that much, make her listen. Tell her that it seems YOUR feelings don't matter.
To echo the others, it shouldn't that long to shave her legs. She's not doing it because she can't. She's not doing it because she wants to send a message to you. Big difference.
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I don't think that's it at all.. she is otherwise fastidiously clean. I've changed my showering habits for her; before I moved in I was a morning showerer.. she insists that I take showers at night instead and for the most part I've complied, for obvious reasons! She tends to be critical of my hygiene in general, which is really unfair because I'm a clean guy; I shower once or twice daily brush teeth, wear deo, etc. I really think she has a heightened sense of smell.
She is also OCD and spends all kinds of time plucking hair from other places - including my ears!- and admits this is one of her OCD quirks. So there is lots I don't understand, apparently!
I think she's resentful. She has other changes to make to your hygiene routine which you don't/won't do so she reacts by not doing something she knows you want her to do.
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she won't shave her legs (symptom of larger power/controll issues?) 
