05-17-2012, 03:58 PM
Join Date: Sep 2009
| | Husbands stress and wifes vacation mode
ok, need some ladies opinions on my situation.
I am the husband. Wife has mentioned I am always angry, wound up, take things to serious. I have a very stressfull career/business. This career/business allows us a very nice lifestyle. House, expensive cars, luxury items, vacations. Now, most people understand that with money, comes stress. I could be a greeter at walmart and have zero stress, but also zero money. I see it as a trade off for the lifestyle we want/like. Wife seems to be blind to this concept. Again, this career is plaqued with these types of traits, it sucks but is all I know, and I do make a very good living doing it.
Wife bascially doesnt work, only part time for my company and the rest cares for the house and what not. Over the years I have determined that our sex life is only good, when I can keep her in "vacation mode". That means I am always cheerful, happy go lucky, and meet all her emotional needs. When she gets stressed, the first thing to go is the sex. I would say that her stress is 50% basic life stuff, and the other 50% due to my stress levels due to bringing in the money.
I am in a bit of a quandry here. I cant keep her in the lifestyle, and stress free with out the money. Yet, if I bring in the money she is stressed due to my stress. Either way our sex life sucks, unless I can keep her in vacation mode. That means pretty much I am the lone ranger with my business and simply play the part she wants me to be as her husband. I then just pack away and keep hidden all my stress and anger, yet still have to show her that I am happy go lucky and fill her needs. I feel I am just building and ready to blow up.
So, my questions....
Am i screwed either way here? advice?