I always find it admirable that some women would continue to love a man who is paraplegic... personally if that happened to me I would force my wife to divorce me or have an open marriage because I can't stand the thought of her sticking around.
I always find it admirable that some women would continue to love a man who is paraplegic... personally if that happened to me I would force my wife to divorce me or have an open marriage because I can't stand the thought of her sticking around.
Or, you could tell her to sext with her ex, like the OP does (except her husband doesn't know). Doesn't quite have the same ring of nobility, does it?
Just wondering if anyone else is married to a paraplegic. I'd love to be able to talk to someone who knows what it's like.
H was in a motorcycle accident in 1994. broke his back. I met him after his accident.
Yes, I am married to a t12 paraplegic. We have been married since 2004, but we've been together since 2000. He had already been in his wheelchair for about 10 years at that point. We are currently having marital problems stemming from sex. If you'd like to chat with me, I would be very happy to oblige. It is difficult to find someone to talk to about this type of situation.
I always find it admirable that some women would continue to love a man who is paraplegic... personally if that happened to me I would force my wife to divorce me or have an open marriage because I can't stand the thought of her sticking around.
I find it very admirable also, because honestly, I don't think I could "handle it". I would go into a deep depression -as this is a grieving that the majority couldn't begin to understand, the magnitude of loss. And what this does to the soul of the victim - I can't even imagine. Christopher Reeves was a Saint... so was his wife.
This is also one of the reasons I would be near terrified if my husband wanted a motorcycle, not worth the risk....my Moms 1st BF died this way. My dad used to hill climb, he was lucky, never had an accident.
Me & my husband has talked about the "What IF's" of something THIS earth shatteringly tragic coming upon us...... I did a long post on how WE feel...others may judge, but they are not married to us...or know our hearts. My post HERE
I have a hard time judging anyone faced with this coming upon their marriage. I would count it one of the most difficult heart wrenching marital journeys a spouse could face in this life.
PurpleTurtle80 said: H was in a motorcycle accident in 1994. broke his back. I met him after his accident.
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LowLibby said: Yes, I am married to a t12 paraplegic. We have been married since 2004, but we've been together since 2000. He had already been in his wheelchair for about 10 years at that point. We are currently having marital problems stemming from sex.
In both of your stories....the accident happened before you married. Your husbands were very blessed to once again find love under these circumstances.... this has to be very rare.
I recall a movie with Jane Fonda -volunteers in a VA hospital - who falls in love with a very angry Paraplegic , I guess they even have a sex scene...he does have the use of his arms.
Yes, I am married to a t12 paraplegic. We have been married since 2004, but we've been together since 2000. He had already been in his wheelchair for about 10 years at that point. We are currently having marital problems stemming from sex. If you'd like to chat with me, I would be very happy to oblige. It is difficult to find someone to talk to about this type of situation.
I dont' have personal knowledge of marriage to someone with that disability. However, I've come across a message board for people who is or married to someone who is parplegic. It's Quadriplegic and Paraplegic Spinal Cord Injury Support Forum
They have a relationship board there.
I dont' have personal knowledge of marriage to someone with that disability. However, I've come across a message board for people who is or married to someone who is parplegic. It's Quadriplegic and Paraplegic Spinal Cord Injury Support Forum
They have a relationship board there.
These groups could be LIFE SAVERS ....only they can deeply understand what you are really going through, the day to day battles, the small joys of the little things.
I have been married to my husband a t10 sci paraplegic for over 4 years and have been looking to talk with others in similar marriages
Hi, I meet my husband after his accident 3 years ago, he too was in a motorbike accident. We were married late last year (2013), and I’m finding it hard to keep our marriage going and alive. I love him, but I’m fearing that it’s not enough anymore.
We have also starting with IVF as I dearly want a child, obviously no success as yet.
I’d love to chat to anyone, any advice, and any advice in the bedroom. H is a T4 or T3, he can never remember LOL.
I came very close to being a quad myself. I broke my neck and had moderate cord compression. I am one very lucky person. I am disabled. I need a wheelchair when going out, I can only walk short distances(a couple hundred feet max) at a time. I also live in daily severe pain that leaves me housebound. This happened 8 years after my marriage and my husband is by my side supporting me.
It takes more than love itself for any marriage to surive all the trials and tribulations that come along with a normal marriage.
but in the case of disability its compounded 1000X
pardon me if I am being rude and you don't have to answer
but is it even possible to have sex/intercourse of any sorts ...dose viarga or any of ed meds work?
really tough situation. good bless and good luck!
Please don't think you're being rude at all, I'm hoping by chatting like this I might find something to help us have sex. We've never engaged in sexual intercourse, he has never been able to since after the accident. He has tried many of drugs, but they leave him with headaches, dry throat which makes him gag, and unfortunately they didn't do a single thing. I also feel like he is just not interested in trying anymore. Before I had meet my husband my sex drive was very high. I thought I'd be able to cope with the strength of our relationship, but I'm a 33 yr old female who really wants us to have sex with her husband, at least to consummate our marriage.
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Anyone else married to a paraplegic? 
