05-22-2012, 08:59 AM
Join Date: May 2012
| | Re: Getting over it
Originally Posted by J'Accused
Im sorry but this is the problem with women, and I dislike using generalizations, but in the same post you say "almosted hated each other" now you have buyers remorse that he has found someone else, maybe you gave up on the marriage too quick? This is why divorce should only be the last option, it is too readily available, when 9 times out of 10 the woman isnt "happy" life is hard marriage is harder you have to work on it and want it, and theirs no "getting around" feelings you have to process them and its hard, sounds like avoidance has been an issue in your marriage and maybe he checked out of your marriage before you realized.
Where did I say I had "buyers remorse" ??? I do not regret our separation. Who said *I* was the one who wasn't happy? We were BOTH unhappy because of our extreme differences.
We went to therapy for YEARS. no one made any hasty decisions and we didn't take our separation lightly.
But I AM allowed to feel hurt that he has moved on. From what I have been told by numerous people, this reaction is perfectly natural.
Please don't take your bitterness out on me. Thank you.