Hello, I am new to this site, this is my first post.
I'm trying to reach out to people to talk to, because sometimes I feel like I have no one. I don't want to tell my friends and family some of these details of my marriage. My parents have both passed away, and I have three brothers...no sisters to talk to.
Anyways...a little background about us...we have been married for 4 months...together for 2 years and 2 months. He has a son, I have a son, and now we have a son together.
We used to fight A LOT...and we have recently been getting better at talking about things. We still argue about once a week (which is way more then I want to, obviously). We seem to argue infront of his brother and sister-in-law a lot...and infront of one of his friends. I feel so embarrased to argue infront of them. We also argue infront of the kids, WHICH I HATE!!!! Today we were in the van together (all 5 of us) and he just wouldn't stop. He was trying to get me to answer a question - he thinks there is a double standard in our house...and I kept saying, "not right now"..."not infront of the kids"..."please stop"...but he wouldn't. He got so mad he told me that we were done...infront of the kids - ages 7, 4 and 1.
I feel like we are happy for a week...or the odd time 2 -with little disagreements, that we handle...and then a huge blow out fight. I don't know what to do. I feel like if he knows that he was in the wrong...if he knows that he shouldn't have done something he gets really really mean. He'll say anything he can to make me feel like crap. He'll go way off topic to what the original arguement was about and will just be plain mean. He's put down my work, my weight, my mothering...everything you can think of.
I love him...I want it to work...I don't ever want to be divorced...but sometimes I feel like it's just a matter of time before we are. I don't really picture us 80 years old and still together.
I wish I could.
We fight about money a lot...and he spends a lot more money than I do...and I try to make him see that. One week he'll agree that he'll stop...the next week he tells me I spend just as much.
We fight about my son (the 4 yr old) he thinks I'm really easy on him, and he is really hard on him.
We fight about his smoking (cig and pot) - which is also the money issue.
We fight about him wanting to sleep in on weekends...when I am up with all 3 kids.
I just want to be happily married...and a happy family. I need help!!!