05-24-2012, 09:33 PM
Join Date: May 2012
| | marriage counseling? WIll it help?
I posted on here a while back about my husband having an affair. He slept with a girl he knew from high school (10 years ago) and she claimed she was pregnant. Two weeks after she told him she was pregnant, she said she miscarried. After this he told me that he still wanted to be with me if i let him and we started working on things. I had a suspision that they were still talking and when i confronted him he admitted to it. I demanded that he stopped talking to her and he agreed and said he wasnt sure why they had still been talking, that it was nothing but small talk. even showed me the conversation to prove it. It only lasted like 2 days of not talking and they were talking again. He still says he's not sure why but that he has feelings for her and doesnt want to stop talking. He told me that he knows he still loves me but he never expected me to stay with him through all of this, and that he sort of wishes i didnt. I asked him if he wanted to move out and he told me that he had looked at a few houses, because he didnt feel he could fix this living in the same house as me. That he wanted to take the summer and each of us spend some alone time. He told me that if he left it would have nothing to do with her but the fact that he is unhappy. I confronted him about whether or not he loved her too and he said he was unsure. I still want to work this out, we have fun together, our sex life is great, he tells me how our marriage was perfect and there is no excuse for what he did but he feels he has ruined our marriage and theres no way to fix it. He said he would be willing to do marriage counseling, we can't afford it but if it would help keep us together I will figure out a way. As i was looking online though, theres a lot of sites that say marriage counseling doesnt help anyone it just hurts the relationship more.....