diwali123

Spending weekend with them when you're having marital problems. I want to run away.
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lamaga

Don't blame you!

Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. Trying counting down the hours?

Maricha75

Hmmm.... be glad you don't LIVE with them while having marital problems... been there, done that. Wouldn't recommend it. =/

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diwali123

The last time we were around these people we were so happy together. Now I have a heavy heart just thinking about everything that has happened. I remember how I used to feel
about him and I want to cry. I see how other people see him and remember I used to see him that way too. I had no idea. It just depresses me.
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diwali123

The thing is he has some very backwards ideas about women and sex that his IC, my IC, and our MC think is due to his upbringing. So being where he grew up and the people who influenced him is hard for me. I feel like something bad happened to him as a child. I could be wrong but my IC had the feeling too. It's just hard.
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Chelle D

Well... It would be better to deal with IL's than spending the weekend sitting at home, waiting for him to come home wondering what he was doing at the IL's.
(ie- it would suck worse if he went alone).

livelaughlovenow

No doubt!!! We had to spend a weekend with my family when we were having issues, at Disney no less! Ug... that was a crazy week. Luckily we worked it out fairly quickly... but it totally sucked for me and it was my family, I can only imagine how my dh felt.

diwali123

I know but I would have not worried about him doing anything at the ILs. There's nothing to do there.
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that_girl

Nothing is worse than dealing with family when you have marriage problems.


Hope everything is ok now.

I remember when my mom would come up on Saturdays when Hubs and I were separated. omfg. She'd tell me how I needed to behave and to stop moping and blah blah blah...GO AWAY, LADY!

But I guess it's way worse when you have marriage issues and the ILs don't know That would suck! Thank goodness it's over.

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diwali123

I guess that's it, not being able to say anything to them. If it were other thumgs maybe but our problems are manifesting sexually and I just can't go there.
Interesting though you know how a lot of people marry someone that reminds them of a family member? I met my family dipole ganger: his cousin. We are the same physical type and our personalities are so similar I couldn't believe it. She's one of his only cousins that he is close to.
I still don't know who in my life my h reminds me of!
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Homemaker_Numero_Uno

Spending the week before thinking of it, and the week after living it over again in your head. :-o