Join Date: May 2012
Location: colorado springs
Military Husband deployed (I need help ladies)
Well I have messed up kinda bad here. I'm new to this forum, But I know I needed a website with marriage insight to help me better understand myself and marriage.
I'm currently deployed to Afghanistan. I have been with my wife for 10 years now. Married for 2. I have a 9 year old daughter, with my wife that I love very deeply. This is my second deployment to Afghanistan. The last time I was here I got the opportunity to see my wife on web cam masturbating, showing me pics of her body, and must admit I got a little spoiled. At that time we were not married yet. But now this is my second deployment and my wife is prude. She has only show me anything but a couple of times. She actually told me one day to "go masturbate by myself cause I didn't need her for that" understandable, but that hurt a little bit. I must admit I'm a very sexual demanding partner, but always has been.
Before I got deployed I was already sexually frustrated with our marriage. Don't get me wrong the sex is good. However, now its become typical and routine. I'm the only one who has brought toys and lingerie into the bedroom. I have told her time and time again my fantasies. Even gone over roll playing, she shows little to no interest when I talk about role playing and dress up. I have even asked her for her fantasy. Discussion have turn into arguments over the things I want, Anal being one of them. I have no limits sexually because she is my wife. She has a lot of boundaries. Sad, but boundaries that she has done with other men but haven't with me. Before deploying I gave up on anything I wanted to do sexually with my wife.
Now deployed again I feel like thing were better with our sex life before we were married. Recently I got upset, and lied about getting other women on line to show me there bodies in a desperate attempt to get thing back the way they were on my last deployment. But it blew up in my face. She took her vaginal piercing out claiming to never have sex with me again. I told her it was a lie, and it made it worst now shes mad at me for playing games with her. I even told her why I did it, it just doesn't register with her. what do I do? Wait for it to blow over and just be content with our sex life for the rest of our lives? Or watch porn, and fantasize?