Does he have a hard physical job that exhausts him when he gets home? Does he exercise?
What about the weekends? Do you go out then?
Exercise gives you a lot of energy. When I ran 36 miles a week, I was everywhere full of energy. I use to go for long walks with my husband while the kids rode their bikes. We use to go rock climbing, to the zoo, ect... I'm not a going out to bar/dance type of woman. I never have been. I'm one to be outside, especially in the woods or near a creek looking for cool rocks. My husband does the same thing. I'm not any fun anymore though, I'm now stuck at home resting.
What would be better for you?
Tell him you find him boring doing that and want to ________ and ________ and _________ instead (fill in the blanks with suggestions for him that you think he ought to be doing instead).
My husband has become really boring. When he isn't working, all he wants to do is sit around and watch t.v.
We used to go do fun things. No he just sit there like a lump.
We sort of fell into that rut. I had to address it, unfortunately I let it build along with other things. I suggest you think back to when you were dating and the things you enjoyed doing, do you both still enjoy them? If so, plan some things, if not, plan a home date night with a game you both enjoy, could be as simple as cards, and simply say, no tv tonight and take initiative to change the atmosphere and get some conversation going. Good luck. We are still trying to find the balance. Sometimes I want to take the tv out of the frigging house and throw it out the window.
What did you & he enjoy doing while dating /early marraige... what are his interests, hobbies?
Sometimes we get caught up in something and it becomes a habit we need to break...like his being glued to the Tv like that.
What would happen if you actively planned some FUN activities for you & him/ the family? Will he bulk ...complain .... or agree to go...with a good attitude?
At our house, if I don't plan the outings...we likely wouldn't do very much.... I've just always been the planner, the mover , the shaker ...I think my husband is very spoiled here...but he happily goes along with anything I come up with, so I can't really complain.