05-29-2012, 06:02 PM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | Neverending balancing act....
When rebuilding your connection in a marriage, how on earth do you get through the balancing act? Like two good days and then something happens and it makes you feel like dirt all over again? Example we had a great weekend and last night I suggested we do something that we haven't in a long time, wasn't sexual, but was intimate, and he said, no it's late. I said, really you are saying it's late? WTF? Grrrr I was so frustrated. I thought it would've been a wonderful emotionally intimate way to end the long family funfilled weekend we had and I got rejected & shut down. (Again no sexual intent, I keep wondering if I should've made that clear, because when he would want to do it... he would've always had sexual intent). I just wanted to go it for closeness and cuddle.... (his naked night on the couch where we just lay and cuddle-something he used to love to do)... so rather than sit and let my mind throw me into a tailspin I went to bed shortly after. He did come to bed with me, but of course was watching tv. I was struggling to just clear my mind to go to sleep. It shouldn't have bothered me that bad, but that rejection... I reminded myself, I'm supposed to be backing off.... dammit. Let him make the advancements, but it wasn't an advancement, I just wanted to feel close to him without obligation of sex. GRRRR anyway I am still sort of peeved about it today. So for those of you working on things with your spouse (no affair) how do you deal with setbacks? What is your stress reliever? should I address this tonight since I am calm now and let him know that I had no sexual intent? And we have switched places, he is now LD and I am HD (which in an of itself is bizzaro).... anyway I wanted to hear from the ladies. (of course might get some men's opinions too. and I don't mind)
Last edited by livelaughlovenow; 05-29-2012 at 06:34 PM.