Yes absolutely. I got a good laugh at some of the posts which I havent done in a couple weeks so thank you... Any help would be appreciated. I am very comfortable in khaki shorts. I just need to invest in some new shoes and shirts I guess. The problem, like you said, is Im still about 40 lbs overweight but Im just a big framed guy to begin with (football player type). Some things just look really stupid on me. Im still confused but trying and listening so please dont give up on my fashion ignorance.
I cannot stress enough (along with the others) no crocks don't wear socks with flip flops (although I would stay away from those too).
Flat front dress pants. I will say it again. Flat front pant only.
Dark wash straight leg jeans. Levi's look best.
Button up shirts in normal colors. Stay away from certain stripes they tend to look like pajamas.
Not every guy can pull off a square toe casual shoe. Not every guy can pull off a pointed toe casual or dress shoe.
I think gym shoes are ok. My husband has a pair of Adidas. There are casual. Don't do shiny pants with a shiny shirt with a shiny tie. (by "shiny" I mean with a "sheen")
Screen tees are ok. But stay out of the "boys" dept. it should be a subtle design and one color. Stay away from logos.
Get a great watch.
Get a few great belts.
Someone else said it...get a grown up wallet. No Velcro. Black or brown are the only acceptable colors.
I think skinny ties ate for younger guys. But don't get a wide or long one...unless you are Donald trump and must instill fear in the underlings.
A velvet jacket.
A few nice black jackets, like paired with a white button down and dark jeans.
Match prints and patterns to your size. If you are 6 feet with broad shoulders, go for larger patterns. Not little skinny stripes on shirts.
Browns black tan are neutral colors. They generally go with anything. If your dress pants have a pin stripe don't match your shirt with it.
Buy pick out the most subtle color and find a tie to match. Don't be afraid of saturated color in ties, meaning wow that tie is purple, or that is a yellow.
Make sure the shirts fit great. If the pants are a little long (the hem of your pants should just cover the top of the shoe) take them to the cleaners. For about 5 bucks they can hem up or drop a hem.
They can also Taylor jackets. If the cuff it long or you found a great shirt in a great color, but maybe in the shoulders it's a little big, easy fix.
Buy clothes for the size you are and not the size you think you are.
Now here is the part men hate and this is the hard part.....you have to go into the store, and not just one, and use the dressing room.
You also have to try on shoes. Find the right style for you.
Look for a good tailor and stick with him.
BUY a Tux and have an occasional need to wear it.
Consider having shirts made or at least tailored.
Ties are silk belts are leather.
Shoes are black or buck.
Suede shoes are for weekends.
Shawl lapels are retarded unless you're James Bond or a pimp.
No pleats no box fronts.
No useful jacket is linen.
No cords.
No logos no slogans no screen prints. Grow the hell up.
No baseball caps.
No backwards hats of any kind.
Cotton, cotton poly blend, or oxford weave shirts.
Suits are wool or wool cotton blend*
No black suits
No white suits
No Steve Harvey suits
*Shatnez....if you have to ask, don't worry about it.
Oh my god, thats why women are so good a this. I think I have a good idea now, but wow, I have so much to learn. I already threw out my comfortable crocs. Im listeneing. Thank you so much for the tips. You have no idea what it means to me.....
Holy crap, I read all the post's and I almost got a nosebleed I was laughing so hard. It felt good to get a good laugh for a change. The paperdoll thing did me in. I truly mean thank you for the advice. So do you really have to put the clothes on in the dressing room?
Holy crap, I read all the post's and I almost got a nosebleed I was laughing so hard. It felt good to get a good laugh for a change. The paperdoll thing did me in. I truly mean thank you for the advice. So do you really have to put the clothes on in the dressing room?
Yes, our dear paper doll, you MUST try the clothes on!
So proud of you for tossing the crocs! YAY!
Now, if you need a quick confidence boost, try getting a different hairstyle (assuming you have enough for a new style, hard to style a shaved/bald head).
Stop stressing about that 40lbs, if your're working in losing it great, in the meantime don't focus on it. try stuff on, if it fits great, if not, move on to the next thing. don't setttle, only buy it if it fits well, looks good, or can be tailored.
Holy crap, I read all the post's and I almost got a nosebleed I was laughing so hard. It felt good to get a good laugh for a change. The paperdoll thing did me in. I truly mean thank you for the advice. So do you really have to put the clothes on in the dressing room?
Hunter,
Thought you might like another middle aged guy's perspective, too, because its not easy finding clothes that aren't made for a twenty-something out there.
Once you are comfortable that you know your size in different styles, I think it becomes almost necessary to pick a few online stores with good return policies. I live in a midsize city, but everybody just wears identical clothes, and for a southern guy in a midwest city, they look like they came out of the 1950's to me.
In my forties, I want shoes that are comfortable as well as nice. Can't get that without spending a little money. Enlist in Zappos VIP program, and wait in line to get approved (I found that if you return a pair of shoes, but talk to customer service, and be NICE, they'll offer VIP service). With this, you get your shoes next day. Returns are free and next day too.
Pants- its hard to get a variety locally. For me, I use a variety of stores. If I wear jeans, Target or Walmart usually have plain jeans. Local stores might have Wrangler's Angler or JRiggs that look like work pants, but online you can find them in casual styles. These are jeans that look good, cost a couple of dollars more than walmart wear, but will look new until the cows come home. Mostly, I wear casual pants when going out, but flat front. Also, my wife LOVES the carhartt washed Twill dungaree in khaki - she can't keep her hands off my legs.
I'm more comfortable in a button down shirt. Frankly, though, I'm big framed, but low body fat, so I often just throw on a light gray t-shirt, not tight, and not tucked. This year, our local superstore had a great buy on Izod cargo shorts, too.
Yes, our dear paper doll, you MUST try the clothes on!
So proud of you for tossing the crocs! YAY!
Now, if you need a quick confidence boost, try getting a different hairstyle (assuming you have enough for a new style, hard to style a shaved/bald head).
Stop stressing about that 40lbs, if your're working in losing it great, in the meantime don't focus on it. try stuff on, if it fits great, if not, move on to the next thing. don't setttle, only buy it if it fits well, looks good, or can be tailored.
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I forgot something.... This is the easiest one, and I can't believe I forgot it!!! Smile, whether you want to or not, it's sexy, it exudes confidence, it feels good, and it's free!!! Posted via Mobile Device
I forgot something.... This is the easiest one, and I can't believe I forgot it!!! Smile, whether you want to or not, it's sexy, it exudes confidence, it feels good, and it's free!!! Posted via Mobile Device
I spend lots of time grubbing in the dirt, working in the yard, etc, and a good portion of my wardrobe are clothing fur that purpose.... Not sexy, imo.
I have been loosing weight, working out, and working on my "presence" around others. I'm very confident, but usually lost in my own world. I have been making myself stand and walk straight, and look people in the eyes as I walk around, and especially when i talk to them, and it it's amazing the difference I see in how people react. Confidence is more key than clothing.
Friday I took some critters to my sons classroom as they were having a pet day at school. Since I was dealing Animals, I had on the absolute grungiest clothes, and a very worn carhart coat. I mean, I've seen homeless people dressed better. Since this is an area of expertise for me, I am very confident and was having fun, despite looking like I was drug in off the street.
surprise to me, when I had a cute teacher at the school, and one very hot mom flirting with me as we were all hanging out in the classroom that morning. Both are ladies that I would never pursue based on looks, because I would have considered them out of my league 6 months ago.
Wearing confidence shows just as much as great clothing.
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