06-08-2012, 06:56 PM
Join Date: Dec 2011
| | Re: AAARRRRGGGH, or, the Eldercare thing
My dad lived with me for a few years. This was after he had stents put in for his heart. He was actually pretty good and, most times, a joy to have around.
He then needed surgery to have his mitral valve replaced. He had major complications after surgery and had a stroke. While in rehabilitation center, his lungs filled with mucus and was on life support. He spent 4 months at a rehabilitation facility after coming off life support.
When he finally came back home, I had to feed him through a feeding tube, suction his lungs through his trach, change his trach, help him with showering..etc.
He eventually went into a nursing home, which I know was hard for him, but he knew I couldn't keep going the way I was, yet at the same time, I wasn't going to complain. He was my dad and I loved him
He passed away last year and I miss him a lot. To tell the truth I wouldn't change a thing. I'll always be glad he was with me.
He was always very considerate when he lived with me. But I know this isn't always the case. For those dealing with ornery, stubborn or difficult parents, my heart goes out to you. You love them, but it's very difficult to deal with.