working_together

Just curious whether "bad boys" really do get tamed by the right woman, or are they forever set in their ways???

Anyone ever marry one??

lamaga

Don't ever marry anyone you are hoping to change.

EleGirl

If the bad boy changed, only he can take credit for that. More than likely it's life and life's events that will case a bad boy to settle down.

We cannot change another person. We can only change ourself and the way we interact with another person.

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working_together

lol....no, tried that...didn't work.

livelaughlovenow

I don't think you can marry one with the hopes to change them. I met a bad boy, he told me his dreams while we were dating were to settle down marry and have kids. He said he was changing his lifestyle, I watched he was, we fell in love and got married, so yeah I married one.
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Mavash.

I tried to change a few. Didn't work. I walked away. I now know what you see is what you get. Any change that happens better happen BEFORE you get married.

Numb in Ohio

Are you referring to just a trouble maker, or a selfish cheater who does what he wants and emotionally and verbally abuses the one he says he loves and can't live without??

Yes I married one... he is in IC since I found out about his EA's and all the years of every kind of abuse except physical... He says he wants to change (now!!) since he was exposed... otherwise he would of been content staying the way he was/is..

Is he really changing?? .. or is he faking?? Only time will tell.. just don't know if I will be around to see the results!!

Gaia

I don't believe in "taming"... Now some people do change over the years and after a marriage but it is only because of these reasons... imo...

1. one or both partners will adapt to living with the other.

2. IF work is being done on the relationship.. one or both partners will make compromises in the relationship so as to keep it together.

3. As both partners get older ... they naturally change in and mature so their point of views, likes, dislikes, ect change as well.

So... if you DO plan on "Trying" to change someone... just realize... you will most likely be making changes in yourself for them as well. However.. I firmly believe that one should accept another for who they are and try to adapt .. rather then change their character. It is possible to adapt and compromise without "Changing" someones character.

livelaughlovenow

Yikes Ohio....I am talking about typical bad boy....attitude, tatoos, sexy, lady's man, parties, rock n roll bad boy...maybe been in trouble with the law when young.
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Numb in Ohio

OOps,, sorry!!!

He was a lot of that too,, he's outgrown a lot of that behavior ,, wish he would of outgrew the ladies man part....

WorkOnIt

If you're the "one" he will change... Otherwise forget it. He'll know too within 5 seconds of standing near you.

working_together

I wasn't referring to an abusive man, although many "bad boys" are abusive. My ex was a "bad boy", he was c0cky, arrogant, self centered (most of the time)...etc.

I was more interested in the extremely self-assured, dominant, I don't give a sh1t attitude. Add in the fast cars...

Woman are attracted to that type of personality, and I guess it could be the challange of taming them. IDK..

working_together

Just for the record I'm not dating a "bad boy", I had a short fling with one right after my separation. A few red flags went up, and we parted ways. But I'm just so stupid when it comes to men I think. I think I'm attracted to the intensity of it all.

working_together

Good question...I have no idea, my ex only calmed down slightly with age, and frankly I don't think they ever change.

livelaughlovenow

No! Never bored.
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