sd212

I tend to fall head over heels pretty quickly. That has been my history anyway. Sometimes I fit into the needy category.
How to Stop Being Needy: 11 steps - wikiHow
We all want what we can't have right? But do women exist that appreciate a genuine guy who goes right for it...

I know it's not attractive.

But, here is my question:

As a woman, do you want a guy to just be who he is or play hard to get? IE, text back right away or make you wait?

You're answers are much appreciated!

lamaga

I want a guy who is what he is and doesn't play games.

HOWEVER -- if you come on too strong too quick, I'm likely to wonder if it's me you're interested in, or just having a girlfriend. While I would not recommend playing hard to get, I would recommend taking your time with any new relationship and not getting too infatuated too fast...or at least keep the infatuation under control!

And yes, I realize this advice is completely contradictory. Sorry

TwoDogs

Playing hard to get can sometimes be interpreted as "disinterest" or "playing the field" i.e. the guy takes a while to respond to me because he's soooo busy with other women. Neither of those are an auspicious start to a budding relationship.

I can't determine if we're compatible in the levels of attention we like/need if you're artificially altering yours according to some "rule" of attraction.

But the instant-relationship-just-add-water move is unnerving too. Like lamaga says, if you move too fast it may appear that you like the idea of a relationship more than you actually like ME.

Mavash.

You seriously need to fix the needy part of you. It will KILL a marriage. And yes I'm speaking from experience. It's fixable but you will have to work at it from the inside out and some 11 step program from wikiHow isn't going to cut it. You need to get into therapy to heal wounds from your past that make you act like this.

In your case you need to NOT play any games. You need to be upfront as to how needy you are otherwise it's going to be a bait and switch.

There are plenty of women who want to move as fast as you that won't be your problem. The problem will be because you aren't ready for a relationship.

sd212

So much for an easy question!

Mavash.

To answer your "easy" question.

Be yourself. Text right away. Don't play hard to get.

Maricha75

But at the same time, don't come on so strong that it will freak her out lol.

Example:

She: What are you doing?
You: Just watching a movie. You?
She: Not much... hanging out with the family.

Now, this could leave an opening for
A) You: Oh, well that sounds like fun...

OR
B) You: Hey, so when were you gonna take me home to meet the parents?

If you just met the girl.... which do you think she would prefer?
You can be yourself, text back when she sends a message, but don't latch onto her

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sd212

@Miracha75
Totally get it. When I say I sometimes fit into the needy category, don't worry that i'm like your example : )

I know you were just making the point but I definitely appreciate it and wouldn't ever be THAT guy!!!

I'm just wrestling w/ being me or if I really do need to "fix" me first.

nxs450

I have to ask what in the heck is that evil looking avater you have. It gives me the creeps. lol

Dollystanford

text right away please, we're not 13 years old any more
I hate game playing and I hate all that sh*t in women's magazines about 'the rules'
if you like someone, show it
I'm with Lamaga though, try not to go overboard - the reek of desperation is never pretty

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lamaga

NXS, it's a character from Buffy the Vampire Slayer

Maricha75

Movie or series? Trying to place him lol.

Sorry for tangent!

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Jellybeans

But do women exist that appreciate a genuine guy who goes right for it...

It's the only kind of man I appreciate.


As a woman, do you want a guy to just be who he is or play hard to get? IE, text back right away or make you wait?

If a guy plays "hard to get" or any "games," he is automatically marked off my list. Not interested. I don't have time for that.

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lamaga

Maricha, it's D'Hoffryn, the guy who supervises the vengeance demons.

StatusQuo

Be who you are, no games.