I think feeling desirable in a relationship is very important. For me, it's a must. I need to hear and feel that my partner cares about me, enjoys my company, and finds me appealing and sexy. The more you feel you are desired, the better you feel about yourself as a woman. I believe it results in better intimacy, and of course better sex. I don't think all men can express this well, and maybe they don't feel that a woman needs to hear or know their partner is crazy about them, that it's a given. In my next relationship, I don't want anything to become "comfortable".
So, how does your partner show you that you are desirable?? Is it with words, or actions, or a mix of both???
I need to feel desired and loved too.... but I don't think it makes me feel better about myself as a woman. It does encourage that level of mutual attraction though. He might need it in slightly different ways to me but we both need to feel admired, respected and desired. He shows me with words, actions and body language.
It can be when I'm at my crappiest, unwell, no makeup, yet he compliments me and tells me he desires me. It can be when I'm dressed up, and he pulls me in for a kiss and asks how he got so lucky. The way he hangs back if we're out walking just so he can "admire the view".
When we get to a restaurant and he takes the side of the table that doesn't have a view. I'll ask if he'd prefer my side and he answers "I'm staying right here, I have the best view in the whole place." (facing a wall - but he means me lol).
The way he listens and takes interest in me. That he always includes me. It's in the little things he does to let me know he's thinking of me - such as saving the last chocolate lol.
It's in the quiet early mornings, when I'm barely awake and he's stroking the hair from my face. Those random moments where I catch him looking at me and it gives me a flutter inside. And there's more flirtatious moments as well... but you get the idea.
It's also in the way he is for himself. He cares about his appearance (without being caught up on image), his well-being, about the type of man he is. Yes, for himself, but he wants to stay desirable to me too. That in itself shows me he desires me, if that makes sense?
I always compliment her figure, her clothes, but I'm honest if something doesn't look "right" on her. I touch, hug, and kiss her all the time.
I tell her how beautiful she is, how sexy she is and how much much I love her.
She does the same for me.
There's a lot of serious "love talk" and a lot, a whole lot of joking, fun, sarcastic "love talk".
We always try to make each other laugh. It's hard to be mad or upset if you're laughing.
Also, we both really know what the other likes and does not like. We try to do the "likes" and do our best to avoid the "not likes".
It's a mix. Compliments, touches, plays grabass, tells me I am hot, beautiful, sexy, etc, and gives specifics. He hugs, and gives the best like lingering hugs, like even if we are standing.... can't really explain that. Kissing deeply, that lets me know instead of just a peck. He will verbalize it a lot more than anything, but other ways, is he plays with my hair, will put his arm around me, but touch my breast. Then of course in a make out session he tells me all sorts of things, about what he sees, what he feels etc.
To let me know he thinks I'm sexy, he touches me a lot. He loves to pinch my butt and try to reach down my shirt He will text me throughout the day with texts that are....sexual...with a countdown until we're in bed (10pm bedtime haha). He'll say, "Nice ass..." or whatever. When I'm cooking, he'll sit in the kitchen on a stool and we'll chat and he'll stare at my butt. Nice.
Emotionally, we connect on another level. He asks my opinions and takes my advice. He snuggles me and we hang out like 'bros' nightly.
10pm comes and it's on! I know if he's feeling romantic, or just naughty, by the way he kisses me. He's a great kisser.
I need to feel desired and loved too.... but I don't think it makes me feel better about myself as a woman. It does encourage that level of mutual attraction though. He might need it in slightly different ways to me but we both need to feel admired, respected and desired. He shows me with words, actions and body language.
It can be when I'm at my crappiest, unwell, no makeup, yet he compliments me and tells me he desires me. It can be when I'm dressed up, and he pulls me in for a kiss and asks how he got so lucky. The way he hangs back if we're out walking just so he can "admire the view".
When we get to a restaurant and he takes the side of the table that doesn't have a view. I'll ask if he'd prefer my side and he answers "I'm staying right here, I have the best view in the whole place." (facing a wall - but he means me lol).
The way he listens and takes interest in me. That he always includes me. It's in the little things he does to let me know he's thinking of me - such as saving the last chocolate lol.
It's in the quiet early mornings, when I'm barely awake and he's stroking the hair from my face. Those random moments where I catch him looking at me and it gives me a flutter inside. And there's more flirtatious moments as well... but you get the idea.
It's also in the way he is for himself. He cares about his appearance (without being caught up on image), his well-being, about the type of man he is. Yes, for himself, but he wants to stay desirable to me too. That in itself shows me he desires me, if that makes sense?
This is great!
Its funny though, to some women this is the man oversexualizing them and treating them like objects... to others its making them feel desired.
Its funny though, to some women this is the man oversexualizing them and treating them like objects... to others its making them feel desired.
The way he is with me overall, means I never feel like an object. Not at all! I want him to be attracted to me physically, mentally, and emotionally... and for him, the emotional level of attraction/connection has to be there.
I compliment how he looks in (and out of) his clothes. When I see him walking from the bathroom to the bedroom, I whistle or compliment him. I noticed he looked back at me the other morning to see if I was looking his way, when my reaction was delayed. I think he was waiting for it lol. I told him "I see you there, looking all sexy..." TMI? Not sure. It works for us.
One thing I'd say is that he can't make you feel desired. It's up to you to feel good about yourself, and to do what you need to do to make that happen. He can show that you're desirable to him, but that's not the same thing. And if you don't feel good about yourself, no amount of compliments, affection, flirting, initiating sex, etc. will help.
One thing I'd say is that he can't make you feel desired. It's up to you to feel good about yourself, and to do what you need to do to make that happen. He can show that you're desirable to him, but that's not the same thing. And if you don't feel good about yourself, no amount of compliments, affection, flirting, initiating sex, etc. will help.
BS... sorry have to say that.... confidence and sexual confidence and "feeling desired by your mate" are two totally different things. Your mate absolutely makes you feel desired or not. If your mate shows no interest in you, you do not feel desired, if your mate shows interest in you, compliments you etc, you feel desired by them.... I think you read the question wrong....
This one wasn't like the other one, there was another post how can I make my wife feel more attractive, that is totally different... but your mate can absolutely make you feel desired... and in your situation, your wife is not making you feel desired
I misspoke/mistyped. I meant desirable...not desired. He can show you he desires you but if she doesn't believe she's desirable it will only go so far. You can't fix someone else's low self-esteem.
I misspoke/mistyped. I meant desirable...not desired. He can show you he desires you but if she doesn't believe she's desirable it will only go so far. You can't fix someone else's low self-esteem.
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How does your mate make you feel desired? 
He will text me throughout the day with texts that are....sexual...with a countdown until we're in bed (10pm bedtime haha). He'll say, "Nice ass..." or whatever. When I'm cooking, he'll sit in the kitchen on a stool and we'll chat and he'll stare at my butt. Nice. 
TMI? Not sure. It works for us.
