Let's try this again.

Cosmos · 06-20-2012, 07:28 AM

FirstYearDown, you got a good result from the way you and your H handled things, and that is all that matters. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone here.

FirstYearDown · 06-20-2012, 07:37 AM

My husband told me that he was surprised by the hug and when he grabbed my hand, it was his way of showing how much more important I am than some flirty fool. I tease him with the squealing tone and he showers me with kisses. "I am here with YOU. My wife is the only woman for me."

FirstYearDown · 06-20-2012, 07:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Cosmos

FirstYearDown, you got a good result from the way you and your H handled things, and that is all that matters. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone here.

Caribbean Man · 06-20-2012, 07:55 AM

In our culture,
People hug ALL THE TIME.
Men hug men,women hug men , women hug women,and so forth.

I think that the length of time and the closeness of the hug determines if the intent was malicious.
But sometimes women have this way that they try to " diss " other women...,especially in front of their husbands / significant other.........
Damn.

FirstYearDown · 06-20-2012, 10:02 AM

Yes, CM we hug in our culture. Not in Canada though.

This woman was trying to "dis". She was an idiot because she was only dissing herself.

Love Song · 06-20-2012, 06:37 PM

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Actually, if you are saying that the situation was not handled well, the opposite is handling it badly. You are entitled to your opinion, but let's refrain from pretending that you did not mean to say we did not respond to the situation properly in your eyes. All that really matters is we are happy with the way we handled the hug.

I am not going to explain anymore because I don't think that will make a difference. You are going to think what you want regardless of whatever I post.

I do not live in your head, so I can never truly know if you were trying to offend me or not. You seem very concerned that we believe we did well. I thought my two line post that you quoted was enough explanation, but evidently it was not. I don't expect you or anyone else to agree with everything I post, but I would like to have my choices respected. This means that I do not want to be continually pressured into thinking I was wrong, when I have clearly stated otherwise. Is that fair? Hope that makes sense.

Honey I don't think your situation is so black and white. If I thought you handled it badly I would have said so. I call it how I see it. I don't know why you would think I have a reason to hide my opinion. I would rather say how I feel or not say anything at all.

I had no intentions of offending you but knew what I had said was blunt and some people are offended by bluntness and so I said "I don't mean to offend". It's up to you how you take it but I was clear in stating how I felt.

I do not think you handled this situation badly. I don't think it was handled well either. I think it was ok but that you and your husband could have been a better team in handling it. You posted on here asking for advice and I have given what was honest advice.

The thing is I was trying to explain why I didn't think the situation was handled well. I have been in a situation like this before. I couldn't help but feel sorry for the woman who had made herself look like a fool by being flirty with my husband. There was no need for me to say anything at all. This is why I say it was not handled well IMO. I am not sure you are understanding what I am saying which is why I have gone into my explanation of why I don't feel your situation was handled well.

FirstYearDown · 06-21-2012, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Love Song

Honey I don't think your situation is so black and white. If I thought you handled it badly I would have said so. I call it how I see it. I don't know why you would think I have a reason to hide my opinion. I would rather say how I feel or not say anything at all.

I had no intentions of offending you but knew what I had said was blunt and some people are offended by bluntness and so I said "I don't mean to offend". It's up to you how you take it but I was clear in stating how I felt.

I do not think you handled this situation badly. I don't think it was handled well either. I think it was ok but that you and your husband could have been a better team in handling it. You posted on here asking for advice and I have given what was honest advice.

The thing is I was trying to explain why I didn't think the situation was handled well. I have been in a situation like this before. I couldn't help but feel sorry for the woman who had made herself look like a fool by being flirty with my husband. There was no need for me to say anything at all. This is why I say it was not handled well IMO. I am not sure you are understanding what I am saying which is why I have gone into my explanation of why I don't feel your situation was handled well.

Where does it say that I think you have to hide your opinion? I wrote that you are entitled to whatever you think.

As for your bluntness and honesty, I know we handled the situation as best we could. I am sorry that you do not feel the same way, but it will not change how my husband and I perceive our reaction.

I totally understand your explanation...I just place very little importance on what you have to say about this subject. Since you are the only person in a large group saying that I was wrong, I would tend to believe the majority rather than the minority. It would be a different story if several members told me that we did not handle the incident properly, but that is obviously not the case.

If you don't mind, I would rather not to continue to go back and forth about this issue. We will just have to agree to disagree. Thanks for taking the time to respond and explain.

Love Song · 06-21-2012, 05:36 PM

You are not understanding what I am saying and I am removing myself from this thread.

that_girl · 06-21-2012, 05:37 PM

She handled it way better than I would! I'd have snatched that woman by her tacky weave!

FirstYearDown · 06-21-2012, 05:46 PM

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You are not understanding what I am saying and I am removing myself from this thread.

Goodbye and good luck.

I certainly comprehend your opinion...I just don't care very much about it. There is a difference.

Thank you, TG. Some people just like to spread negative vibes and then get huffy when others refuse to indulge it.

working_together · 06-21-2012, 08:34 PM

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Yes, CM we hug in our culture. Not in Canada though.

This woman was trying to "dis". She was an idiot because she was only dissing herself.

Especially in Ontario....whoa, they are cold....I'm in Quebec, people are forever kissing and hugging.

FirstYearDown · 06-21-2012, 08:49 PM

I know right? I love visiting la belle province. We will be stopping in Quebec City this summer.

It is like a cheaper version of Europe.

working_together · 06-21-2012, 09:20 PM

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I know right? I love visiting la belle province. We will be stopping in Quebec City this summer.

It is like a cheaper version of Europe.

You have to do some whale watching...

chicka · 06-27-2012, 11:33 AM

I don't think its cool to hug another woman's husband. But this woman may have just been clueless. Or maybe shes the always happy type who wants to express affection to everyone. But she should know most women would not accept having their husbands hugged!