04-09-2009, 03:55 PM
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Novato, CA.
| | Re: Feeling very lonely
Originally Posted by "helpless"
Is normal not to have any freinds? The only people I talk with is with family members. I feel like it's not okay to have to hold everything inside at times I fell like I'm going to burst. I don't have that relationship with my Hubby where I can talk to him about my problems because it ends up with him criticizing me and ends up with a huge fight.
I think people generally need other people in their lives, including friends. This pertains to married or unmarried people. A healthy relationship is typically one where there's attention on the partnerships, ofcourse - but also each individual. Having some independence within a marriage is not a bad thing. That means having friends and other outlets, hobbies and the like.
This is particularly true for you if you have a partner who you can't communicate with. It's unfortunate that he doesn't appear interested in hearing what goes on for you without being critical. Ideally you could both tell each other how you're feeling about "whatever" and feel emotionally safe doing that!
If you feel lonely, it's because you are. Seek out friendships in social groups, clubs, at church or wherever might fit for you.
If your husband is open to couples counseling, you might want to consider that to improve the communication in your marriage.