my husband decided to grow a beard. First time in 30 years that I've been with him. Usually he gets impatient and shaves it. I hate it rubbing against me..and oral sex, forget it..all I can think about is how scratchy it feels. The guy is so damned proud that at 47 he was actually able to grow a beard, that I don't want to tell him how much I hate it. He would absolutely shave it if he knew. I am hoping he just gets sick of it on his own, but if not..those of you with bearded spouses...do you ever get used to the feel of it..or dare I say..even "like" the feel?
I love beards, love the way they feel, but that's not going to help you any.
I guess maybe in your shoes I'd set a mental date, give it a chance, but then if I still hated it after all that time, I'd let him know. Do it in a very kind way -- something about how you love the way it loooks on him, but it just doesn't feel good and it's interfering with your sex life.
I think beards are nasty and unsanitary. But that's just me. If I met someone with a beard, I would not be attracted to them. I find them almost repulsive. I don't know why either. lol. Hubs can't grow one (he's not hairy) so I'm happy about that.
Hopefully your husband gets sick of it on his own, but then again, he could wear it forever more. Ew.
, but then again, he could wear it forever more. Ew.
yeah, thanks for reaffirming my biggest fear. I wish I was like lamaga and actually LIKED the look, but I am like you. Honestly, when I look at him and see the hair curling around his lip area it makes me sort of nauseous .
He's such a good guy though. Works his ass off for us and never does anything for himself. I hate to kill his fun.
At this point I'm thinking we may have to install another bathroom in the house. The amount of time he spends analyzing it in the mirror from different angles...using scissors and a razor to neaten it up..admiring it...it's starting to interfere with our overall family function.
Either that or your face looks funny without it. My dad had a mustache forEVER! He shaved it one day and omg...he had no upper lip! He looked so weird! We begged him to grow it back. Much better with the cop mustache.
My ex looked weird without his goatee too *He randomly shaved once and our daughter wouldn't go near him* LOL!. His hair was smooth, it was just nasty...the whole idea of it grosses me out. lol.
My H also went through a phase like this. He actually looked very good in it, but it was very scratchy, and I found it annoying as well. After me pulling away from him and not finding as much enjoyment in some of our favorite activities , he did decide to shave it off all on his own.
Little did I know then what I know now, though. One of my brothers has a beard and always has. I happened to mention to my SIL how did she stand the darn thing. She said that it helps that he keeps it cut close, he washes it often, and he conditions it!
Honestly, I had never even considered him doing that. Might be something your H could try first. Since he likes grooming it, you could give him a beard grooming kit with some things to try out. When I asked my SIL, she said this is what my brother currently uses as a conditioner:
Without hurting hubby's feelings (like saying you hate it & can he shave it).... You could just tell him that it's a bit more scratchy & rough than you'd thought it would be. That you heard about using conditioner on it to soften it up.
My hubby uses conditioner on his & it helps a LOT. I can tell when he's not using the conditioner again... Even just by looking at it. Its more "wirey" & course looking. I want to get him to try a deep oil therapy treatment on it.. but I'm afraid it would cause skin outbreak with pimples under it all. (Not nice for him.)
But when he uses conditioner on it on a regular basis, Even just the look of it is much more controlled & smooth looking. Then i'll rub my fingers thru it & say "Thanks for using the conditioner.. it feels so much better this way!" & hope he gets the hint to keep it up.
Oh.. and for the oral sex.. when he trims it & its too short & scratchy.. and if he "really" wants to go down, then you can have him put a small washcloth (dry or moist, doesnt matter) under his lips, over chin... so that your thighs, etc, don't get rubbed from the beard growth.