this sounds a lot like my husband. It bothers me sometimes but I have so much on plate, I learned to overlook it. I won't go into how I feel about humanity. It would take to long. You too good for him. Take care of yourself and let him be a jerk. You won't be able to change him.
Thats wonderful that your husband is a good guy, good provider, good with the kids etc, BUT that doesn't make what he is doing/saying right. Is he making comments to you about your weight? Does he go about it in a underhanded way? I think you need to call him out on it. If he is going to tell you he isn't going to pretend not to notice womens breasts, then tell him you're not going to pretend to notice how he is acting like an ass too!
I don't think his breast fetish is odd, but the way he goes about it is disrespectful! Have you always known him to talk about boobs like this? And check out bra sizes? Or is this something new?
Also you stated you never felt good enough for him. Is that how you have always felt about yourself in general? Or is he a contributing factor to how you feel? If he already knows how you feel and is saying things in hopes it will get you to change, then to me, its like a bullying tactic.
Start talking about mens butts, or dong sizes. I would be curious to find out his reaction.
As a guy I, totally enjoy admiring the body parts of women. I believe most men are the same. Having said that it is another to oogle women's ta-ta's without regards to your w's feelings. Call it fake or whatever. Restraint in this case is call respect not being Fake.
Personally his criticisms sound more passive aggressive than constructive.
I know of one couple where the wife would point out hot girls for him H publicly and they would make comments about it. Believe it or not have what you would call a great body but, confident in their relationship and in her skin. Most women are not that way.
Perhaps you have made comments in the past about a women's breasts and he has made the assumption that discussing other womens breasts is ok. Since you don't think he is a jerk perhaps he does not know how much it hurts you. Some of us are clueless others just are insensitive.
I don't think you will change his interest in breasts but, he should act in a manner that is respectful of you and your feelings.
My wife recently commented on me checking out another women while at the beach. Candidly, i was probably looking more than i should have but, thought I was not being obvious. Regardless she called me out and I will be more cognizant in the future.
First off, my husband is not a bad guy. He just loves breasts and he makes no apologies for it. He works hard, at work and at the house and is great with the kids. He buys me flowers, lingerie, takes me on dates and more.
He says he is not going to pretend to not notice large breasts on a woman since he thinks that is being a phoney. He said that is better than being in love with the "waif" look.
I am 5-3, 145lbs. I know I am at least 10-15lbs overweight. I don't like being reminded about it that's all.
I just find him always trying to guess a woman's bra size just too odd. He jokingly claims he has 90% accuracy.
Noticing and admiring large breasts isn't the problem (I'd say it's normal), though, is it? It's the constant comments about them, OP. This needs to stop.
It's not about noticing them. It's pointing them out to you and making it clear he wishes you had bigger breasts. Why would he think you'd be interested in discussing other women's boobs? It's a passive aggressive way of insulting you.
FWIW, my husband is a total boob man, but also respectful enough not to go on about it to me. And very appreciative of mine. Posted via Mobile Device
I do not miss being married to a man who never seemed satisfied with my looks.
He was a breast man too.I mutilated my body with implants just to please him and make him stop with the longing comments about women with large breasts.what i wouldn't give to have my perky barely B-cups back instead of these fake-a$$ full C-cups.
Don't let his fascination with big breasts bully you into making the same mistake I made.
cant you get them removed?
i think its a shame when a woman changes her appearance greatly for a male. Its so sad i really hope no women on here get breast implants simply for there husband.
I hope me demanding my wife shave her pubic area however is not the same thing though..
Looking at his cousin's bra tag is beyond disgusting and slightly incestous. Tell your husband you wish his d!ck was bigger and watch how fast he stops this nonsense.
My husband is a breast man too, but he is only obsessed with MY bountiful rack. On our wedding day, my cleavage was so gorgeous that many of my female family members and friends complimented me on it. I am a C cup.