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post #46 of 87 (permalink) Old 07-01-2012, 11:30 AM
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What he is doing is purposefully keeping you in line by making you insecure. Maybe he is insecure himself. He is also invading the privacy of woman, objectifying women to walking breast and thinking his pleasure is more important than his self control.

He sounds like a creep actually. I am certainly he seems nice to you because you love him but he has a problem, not you. He is not a nice man he should not be around women because he can't control his actions. Did your cousin know that he examined her bra and took an interest in her breast size. If a man examined my bra I would ream his creepy azz out and never be around him again.

There is nothing wrong with having a preference for body parts however, there is something wrong with letting you know you don't measure up and touching someones intimate apparel. She did not put it there for his pleasure. He is out of control.

This is what i would do. Put a moratorium on sex and tell him he needs to go to IC and MC. let him know he is the problem not you and he needs to solve it. Let him know you have put up with it in the past but the incident with the bra shows that the problem is serious and no intension of putting up with it.

He will say the same as he has always said but keep to the script, he needs to realize he has a problem. The danger is that his behavior may escalate to doing things that are more invasive and get into legal trouble.

How do you feel about fighting fire with fire? Penis size. What ever size he, make subtle contents wondering how large random men are. If that does not shut him up, start making comments about the ideal size of a penis for women. If that does not work, pretend to check out men and asking him how large he thinks they are. Let him know you do computer searches for pics of penises.

This may carry it too far but take what you think you can do and do it. Your husband is not a good or nice man. There isn't a man on the planet that is not aware of a woman's issue about being good enough. There isn't a man who does not realize that it is inappropriate to handle a woman's underwear.


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I wonder why men with a breast fetish marry women who are smaller than they want.

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I find it incredibly amusing that you believe you can speak with authority about a man and marriage you know nothing about. Do people actually believe that their marriages represent all husbands and wives?

My husband likes real breasts, my dear. He is disgusted by freakishly large boobs. Sorry that is obviously not the case with your hubby. It is quite obvious that your world is nothing like my own, so you cannot relate.

You sound like a woman saying that all husbands cheat just because hers did. Your experience is not the so called "rule" you are nattering about. It must be hard to live with bitterness and jealousy of people who have happy marriages.
I realize i may have come off a bit harsh with my reply. I just am coming to terms with the fact that the man i thought the world of who i thought was SO happy and in love with me and pretty much the perfect husband was in fact obsessing over huge breasts behind my back. i posted a link specifically about that and got many many replies back from men basically saying that all me do that. Also, just to clarify, the sites he was going to were of natural breasts and all the women he was downloading had natural (enormous) breasts
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Most women with breast enhancements lie about it, so don't buy that all the women he was downloading had "natural" breasts. Dolly Parton lied about it for decades!

Honestly, as long as women keep having enhancements, men will keep thinking that abnormally large breasts are the norm. Let guys go back to jacking off in their teen years to National Geographic (and no, I don't really mean that, just making a point), and the obsession with perfect female bodies (airbrushed and photoshopped) will fade.
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I realize i may have come off a bit harsh with my reply. I just am coming to terms with the fact that the man i thought the world of who i thought was SO happy and in love with me and pretty much the perfect husband was in fact obsessing over huge breasts behind my back. i posted a link specifically about that and got many many replies back from men basically saying that all me do that. Also, just to clarify, the sites he was going to were of natural breasts and all the women he was downloading had natural (enormous) breasts
You can come to terms with it however you want, as long you don't categorize my husband or marriage based on your experience. Surely you can find a way to heal without insulting other women's husbands.

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Re: My husband's breast fetish. Is it weird?

Take it from someone who is married to someone who says similar things..I've got to tell myself all the time that I'm ok the way I am. Agree with candid conversation with your husband. Also like giving him a taste of his medicine using the "nice bulge" comment so he can experience what you are feeling. Good luck!
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Over time I have come to the conclusion that the vast number of men who categorize themselves as "breast men" are pretty much knuckle draggers.
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Yeah, you can always tell the bottle fed boys...
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Re: My husband's breast fetish. Is it weird?

TO the OP, hows things? Have you talked to him?

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I have brought up penis size with him and oh my God he wasn't bothered by it at all. He is above average, over 7" and is in good shape so he isn't lacking confidence at all.

He is just a boob freak. I've even seen him look down my friend's tops and even my own mother (who is more endowed that me). She wasn't showing them off but was bending down with our son and her cleavage showed. He denied it of course.

We have agreed that he will be a bit more discreet about it. I don't want to always hear about this girls bra size and that girls' etc.

Some women say they would leave and say he is a creep, etc but I am not going that far. His good points far outweigh the bad.

I just want to get a handle on this breast fetish a little bit anyways.

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Yes I believe leaving because of a breast fetish would be a bit of an overreaction.
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I find it incredibly amusing that you believe you can speak with authority about a man and marriage you know nothing about. Do people actually believe that their marriages represent all husbands and wives?

My husband likes real breasts, my dear. He is disgusted by freakishly large boobs. Sorry that is obviously not the case with your hubby. It is quite obvious that your world is nothing like my own, so you cannot relate.

You sound like a woman saying that all husbands cheat just because hers did. Your experience is not the so called "rule" you are nattering about. It must be hard to live with bitterness and jealousy of people who have happy marriages.
If your marriage was as happy as you proclaim, you would not be here getting advice from strangers in regard to your husband's ogling and commenting on the breasts of others. You'd have open dialogue with him and wouldn't need outsiders telling you what's normal and what isn't normal.
Lashing out at someone because their comment hit too close to home is unnecessary.
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Re: My husband's breast fetish. Is it weird?

I guess I opened up a can of worms didn't I?

I know my husband is consumed with breast sizes. His dream girl is Christina Hendricks who has beautiful, full natural breasts, probably a DDD if you ask me.

He says he will try to tone down the ogling and the bra size questions. I don't expect him not to look but not all the time in front of me.

I am considering augmentation surgery before I turn 40.

I realise we all agree that men and women prefer natural breasts but we also have to agree that a D cup is sexier than an A or B too!!
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but we also have to agree that a D cup is sexier than an A or B too!!
I disagree. It took me years to build up self confidence of my smaller size. Due to nursing, I went smaller then before. Anytime I gain weight, it never increases my breast size.:/. If my husband said he preferred me in a bigger size, I'd pack my bags and leave. I will not have the surgery to make myself look bigger. It's not worth losing the sensations from the nerve endings. Yes, I'm one of those two sizes mentioned in your quote. I do wear padded bra's when I leave the house to look more proportioned. The up side of being small is I do not need the support at home and the undergarments stay in the drawer, even when exercising.

My husband is very happy the way I look. At least he tells me so. He's the one who built up my confidence in the first place. Plus, being on the smaller size has really kept my motivation to stay thin and have a flat midsection.

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Yes I admit, Kate Hudson is attractive but she still went under the knife to get B sized breasts from her A cups.

I was referring to all the hottest women out there nowadays, Brooklyn Decker, Kate Upton, Scarlet Johanssen, Sofia Vergera.

Let's face it, if these women were small chested, they wouldn't be where they are today.
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