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Old 06-28-2012, 09:05 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Hello ladies!

I am new to this site but I am embarrased to talk to my friends about this.

First off I have never felt like I was good enough for my husband, I weighed too much, didn't dress sexy enough, didn't exercise enough.

My husband (like alot of men) is obsessed with large breasts and loves cleavage. He mentions he loves Christina Hendricks, Sofia Vegera, etc.

Now he gets into the habit of bringing up breast sizes in front of me, he'll see a woman on TV or walking on the street and comment like, "Wow, she looks like a DD, lucky girl." What size do you think she is hun?

I have even caught him 2 times checking out other women's bras. We were at his 2nd cousin's (Who is in here 30's) for a swim. While he was taking our son to the bathroom to get changed, his cousin left a bra on the doorknob. He casually went over, looked at the tag, shrugged his shoulders and carried on. I asked him what the hell was that about, and he said he was just curious what her size was. He said "I knew she was a D. Ha Ha. I told him how embarrassed I was. He ust said if she didn't want anyone to see it then why did she leave it there?

I found this strange and an invasion of privacy. He told me to lighten up and said there are some guys he knows who used to steal the panties of girls from one night stands and guys are just curious that's all.

He even showed me web-sites of bra size statistics around the world and how the average size is a 36D and how me being a 36C could stand to be bigger.

He is a great guy, great husband and father but to me he is just a little too breast obsessed that's all.

Am I over-reacting?
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Old 06-28-2012, 10:45 AM   #2 (permalink)
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IMO I think he is being disrespectful. There are many guys who like big boobs but that doesn't mean they go around constantly talking about it to their wives, looking at someone else bra to see the size etc. Start talking about men's d*ck sizes in front of him. I'm not saying two wrongs make a right but hey, if he feels you should lighten up and its no big deal, then maybe he wont mind if you start talking about stuff too.
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Old 06-28-2012, 10:48 AM   #3 (permalink)
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some guys would kill for a wife w/ 36C - love your breasts - if he can't, its his loss!

However, my opinion is that there is a deeper issue here involving your feelings of inadequacy (weight, appearance, etc.) which you need to work on and discuss with him. If you feel that way, why not try to change it - FOR YOURSELF - not for anyone else. If you are happy that way, then all is good, but it doesn't sound like you are.
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I do not miss being married to a man who never seemed satisfied with my looks.

He was a breast man too.I mutilated my body with implants just to please him and make him stop with the longing comments about women with large breasts.what i wouldn't give to have my perky barely B-cups back instead of these fake-a$$ full C-cups.

Don't let his fascination with big breasts bully you into making the same mistake I made.
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And just an observation from a stranger,your husband sounds like a real pr*ck.
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Scarlet, you took the words right out of my mouth!
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Hello ladies!

I am new to this site but I am embarrased to talk to my friends about this.

First off I have never felt like I was good enough for my husband, I weighed too much, didn't dress sexy enough, didn't exercise enough.

My husband (like alot of men) is obsessed with large breasts and loves cleavage. He mentions he loves Christina Hendricks, Sofia Vegera, etc.

Now he gets into the habit of bringing up breast sizes in front of me, he'll see a woman on TV or walking on the street and comment like, "Wow, she looks like a DD, lucky girl." What size do you think she is hun?

I have even caught him 2 times checking out other women's bras. We were at his 2nd cousin's (Who is in here 30's) for a swim. While he was taking our son to the bathroom to get changed, his cousin left a bra on the doorknob. He casually went over, looked at the tag, shrugged his shoulders and carried on. I asked him what the hell was that about, and he said he was just curious what her size was. He said "I knew she was a D. Ha Ha. I told him how embarrassed I was. He ust said if she didn't want anyone to see it then why did she leave it there?

I found this strange and an invasion of privacy. He told me to lighten up and said there are some guys he knows who used to steal the panties of girls from one night stands and guys are just curious that's all.

He even showed me web-sites of bra size statistics around the world and how the average size is a 36D and how me being a 36C could stand to be bigger.

He is a great guy, great husband and father but to me he is just a little too breast obsessed that's all.

Am I over-reacting?
No, you're not over-reacting. I would have strangled him with the cousin's bra. But that's just me. I over-react!
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Old 06-28-2012, 10:55 AM   #8 (permalink)
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on a lighter note, my wife is a runner so I often complain to her- tongue in cheek -that she's gone down to a 34C from 34D and I don't like it
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Jennifer, you said you never felt good enough for your husband. Is that because its how you feel about yourself, or is it that he has made you feel that way, because of his comments?

He is being an a$$. If HE is the one who has an issue with your looks, talking about other womens boobs surely isn't helping or going to get you to do anything about it any quicker. It wouldn't me anyway.

Bottom line, if he doesn't appreciate you at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best!
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Your H is being highly insensitive and disrespectful. I would put this on par with a woman obsessing about penis sizes and continually drawing her H's attention to his supposed 'short-comings.'
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He even showed me web-sites of bra size statistics around the world and how the average size is a 36D and how me being a 36C could stand to be bigger.
I tried really hard in my mind to give him the benefit of the doubt, but THIS is simply unacceptable. Sure, lots of men have breast fetishes, but your husband goes way too far and is hurtful.

I'd be having it out with him on how insensitive, hurtful, and exceedingly inappropriate he is about this. And tell him if he isn't happy with my breasts, I would be more than happy to deny him all access to them, permanently.

Scarlet, start saving up and get those implants taken out when you can. You don't have to live with them forever.
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Scarlet, start saving up and get those implants taken out when you can. You don't have to live with them forever.
i wish. my poor boobies are so stretched out from implants that they'd be hanging to my hips without the implants. i'd have to get them removed then have a reduction to tighten the skin,major scarring and tons of money i hate plastic surgery.
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i wish. my poor boobies are so stretched out from implants that they'd be hanging to my hips without the implants. i'd have to get them removed then have a reduction to tighten the skin,major scarring and tons of money i hate plastic surgery.
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that. And am mad at your ex on your behalf.
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Old 06-28-2012, 12:33 PM   #14 (permalink)
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First off, my husband is not a bad guy. He just loves breasts and he makes no apologies for it. He works hard, at work and at the house and is great with the kids. He buys me flowers, lingerie, takes me on dates and more.

He says he is not going to pretend to not notice large breasts on a woman since he thinks that is being a phoney. He said that is better than being in love with the "waif" look.

I am 5-3, 145lbs. I know I am at least 10-15lbs overweight. I don't like being reminded about it that's all.

I just find him always trying to guess a woman's bra size just too odd. He jokingly claims he has 90% accuracy.
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I'd start commenting on men.

"oooh his package looks HUGE! He's probably like, 10 inches, don't you think babe?"

"Omg! That guy's bulge is amazing. Lucky man! "

Then I'd tell my husband to STFU.
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