07-01-2012, 12:14 PM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | Re: i have a crush on another man...
Originally Posted by cocovas09
my marriage has left me with some serious insecurities.. and i think maybe subconsciously or consciously who knows which.. i've been more open to other possibilities... i wouldnt say i "sought" this man out, but he's a customer at my bank. he owns the gas station right behind my building and he comes in daily to deposit his business' cash. there is always a mild flirtation between BOTH of us.. if i'm working that day he'll usually wait until i'm free to assist him.. the other day he came in and i said, "thank goodness you came! i was about to go broke!" and he said, "hun, you can call me anytime.. i'm just across the street"... sometimes when he comes in multiple times a day i'll ask him if he missed me so much he had to come back.. he'll laugh and say yes.
here's the kicker... he's so loud about his divorce.. apparently they made a $250,000 settlement that he has to pay her over the course of some time period so he's always transfering money from the business to give to his xwife. he calls it "giving to charity" when he comes it.. that's our code that he needs to pay her.
so here i am.. married to a guy with some serious issues with his family, which i've endured for 4 years.. my hubs and i get along great.. but recent events have made me feel disconnected from him and i'm left feeling sometimes aloof and insecure. i've never even seen the other guy outside of work.. but i'd bet you $1,000,000 if he asked me out on a date... i'd go.
i cant tell my hubs because it'd be wwIII, and i'm sure he'd do something immature and damaging to the marriage out of spite, hate and immaturity.. plus there's nothing really to tell... but the CRAZY thing is.. i dont feel guilty for liking this guy. i dont feel guilty for wanting to go on a date with him and getting to know him better. does that mean something or am i just an arse?
You are being an arse.... you are flirting with fire. If you are that unhappy in your marriage. Divorce your husband, and only then can you pursue this man, bbut first, read thru your marriage vows, think about your children, read up on the impact divorce has on kids, and decide if you can live with all of that... if you can, go for it, if not, reconnect with your husband and ensure another bank teller handles this customer.