I think most women have some doubts and insecurities about their appearances. We are our own worst critics because other people are not nearly as harsh on us as we are to ourselves.
When I had very low self esteem and thought nobody would want me because of some health problems I have, all I met were awful men who treated me like garbage. They could see that I did not even like myself, so of course they had no respect for me. I met my husband when I began to feel better about myself. I felt strong enough to set limits and stand up for myself when I met him.
Work on your self esteem first and then you will meet a good man.
I agree totally. We are all our worst critics. My husband criticizes my looks, (mostly my weight as I am carrying 15+ lbs) but I told him I feel worse about myself without you telling me about my faults.
The best advice I can give you is first off, nobody is ugly. The only thing I thinks make a person ugly is a rotten, self centered, me first personality
Men like looks sure but they are just like us in a way they like confidence. If you come off as a person who has no self confidence then they won't call you back for a date. A man wants to feel like he a chosen partner, not one that you settled for.
In regards to your appearance, first off go to a salon and get a facial or advice on makeup application. Men don't want a barbie but don't want a plain jane either, somewhere in between.
You said you have an athletic body. Buy some yoga pants and cute tops, that will attract attention.
If you have a nice butt, show it off in classy form fittiing pants.
Buy some new bras, not sports bras and not granny bras. Go to Victoria's Secret and get some sexy bras, red, green, hot pink, lace, leopard print etc. Make sure they fit. Also buy a bunch of sexy panties, thongs, boyshorts. Men go crazy for that. Don't be afraid to show a little cleavage.
Also, go to a boutique and buy some classy & sexy summer dresses and some heels.
Image isn't everything but it is important for all of us.
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It is true that looks attract initial attention, for both men and women. But that attention can dissipate quickly with an unattractive personality. And the opposite is also true. People can become very appealing when their attractive personality comes out. I agree that an attractive personality includes warmth, confidence, and enjoyment of who you are and what you do. A genuine smile, warm laugh, and actions that show a person is content with who they are always attracts my attention. You are probably a very nice person and just need to show your relaxed personality and nice smile. Don't worry about whether the guys are coming after you.
****It is true that looks attract initial attention, for both men and women. But that attention can dissipate quickly with an unattractive personality.****
I think about a late cousin of mine who died at the age of 39. She was beautiful, elegant and cultured. The last time I visited my relatives' house I was reminded of how physically attractive my cousin was.
But still, she ended up marrying a loser. And he was the only "taker" at the time. I don't understand because in addition to her beauty, she had an active social life, traveled, had lots of friends. The only thing I can think of that held her back was a *****y attitude which the family was aware of. Maybe more than the family was aware of it.
Ok, well I have to admit, I am feeling a little dumb, or something, for starting this thread now. I mean, these are feelings that I revisit quite often, and who knows, I could be right back there in an hour from now, but then sometimes I do feel better about myself. While out and about yesterday, looking how I normally look, I received 2 very nice compliments from 2 random, very good looking men Then today I talked to the man who I am very much into. I feel a lot better about that too now.
Its funny that someone mentioned women who wear high heels get more attention. It reminded me that, for years I would wear high heels almost every day. I would also wear skirts and dresses often, but its literally been at least 2 years since I have worn a dress or skirt. So in more of an effort to feel nicer about myself, this morning, I painted my toes!
Men look for attractive bodies on women then personality, try working out and look athlety, diet and eat and sleep healthy.
always wear classy where ever you go, if you have nice legs wear short skirts, if you dont have nice legs make them nice.
if you have big belly thats a turn off for most men. never look you need a relationship, never ever do one night stands.
dont call men let them call you.
be nice and polite but not extra nice, boot your ego and slef esteem. show that you are independent and focused, show them you know what your objectives and this life. when they are ask you about yourself dont answer " not sure" "may be" " I guess" but a straight answer to show them you are focused and know what you want in this life.
if you drive ugly old car then buy you know classy sedan or SUV.
as far as personality
- find out why you think you are ugly
- read how to improve your personality.
- always show confident.
- dont always agree because you are trying to be nice, have your own opinion and stick to it unless its been proved wrong.
- your education and knowldge of things will determin the personality of man you will be with. be knowladgable, be informed on current events like technology, news, etc... just if you been asked you know what they are talking about.
- when you talk to a man, always look into his eyes and dont turn your face.
- dont play with your nose while on a date.
- if you dont have a degree obtain a degree, you might also meet someone in school
- make your house or apartment homy but not girly or too homy more like a modern homy. men like a clean organised woman from house to a body. even mosty men dont clean everyday lol
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Getting hit on is not all it's cracked up to be. Today I must have been looking good, because I was attracting a lot of smiles and men trying to pick me up. I didn't like it because I only want my husband to hit on me.
You know what? I have no makeup on and I am wearing a long maxi dress. I am not all dressed up and professionally coiffed. Maybe the attention comes from the fact that I am not looking for it. If you put out a desperate vibe, you will attract the wrong men. Act like you don't even care and the men will take notice.