Re: expectations vs realistic - sex
There is nothing wrong with being HD or wanting passionate sex.
However you have to evoke passion in your wife.
Starting with, does she ever see you as another child she has to take care of? Do you take responsibility for things and just do them, because you are a man/ father and it's the right fair thing to do? or does she act like your mother nagging you to do stuff with the kids or around the house? that is a huge sex drive killer right there.
When you say sleep issues, what are they and what has caused them?, what has stopped you as a man and a father from shouldering some of that responsibility?
I have found that a lot (not all, but many) women are turned on by men who take control, who treat women well, who are not pushovers, and are not doormats, will not allow any one (wife, family friends) to push them around, but who do their best to be a good caring loving husband.
Do you make her feel sexy, do you flirt, it's very very important, even if she is resistant at first. If she acts like she doesn't want to participate say something like "You are the sexiest woman in the world, and I'm so lucky you are mine, I would rather flirt with you then any one else, I have needs and I married you not just because you are my best friend, but because I am so excited by you, I just want to rip your clothes off" or something along those lines.
To me there is allways a reason to not have sex, headaches, sickness, tiredness, children and on and on. However the reasons to create the time to flirt and bring passion into your relationship should outweigh those, and it's funny when you start concentrating on each other and creating real passion how those other things just fall away or fall into place.
Last edited by *LittleDeer*; 07-11-2012 at 08:12 PM.