anonymous

what would you feel if your husband keep on taking pictures of other women even if you're with him in special places? Even if most of the time that's the reason of your fights, he still continue to do this. I feel disrespected and it really hurts me. I feel like he doesn't even care about my feelings and just consider this as just me being a too jealous wife.

Amplexor

What is his purpose in taking these and what does he do with them?

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revitalizedhusband

Yeah, what's he doing with them? I mean if he is a photographer, then you are being jealous, if he is taking them home and masturbating to them, then he is an idiot.

anonymous

His excuse usually is that the photos are for his friends. He usually post that on forums or on his photo blog. His hobby now is photography but even before this hobby he would do that when we were in special places like resorts. I just feel disrespected especially when I'm with him and he is doing this. I'm his wife and yet his camera was pointing to different women while I was beside him.

Hispetal

Don't his friends own a camera?

He has to have ulterior motives. In my opinion, what he's doing is REALLY creepy. Someday, he may end up invading someone's privacy and if they complain, he'll have the law to deal with.

anonymous

yeah, its just his excuse and I'm so tired of it. it always ruins are vacation together. I don't feel good about myself when he does this..

Peridot

I agree taking pictures of strangers without their consent is kind of creepy.

I could understand if the woman was a good subject in context to the composition of the overall photo... but it seems that the women ARE the content.

If he is taking too much time away from you at resorts when it is supposed to be just you and him time, regardless of the photo matter... it's still a problem.

marriagehelp12

Sounds like he is more osessed with taking pictures of strangers than spending time with you. My opinion is to put your foot down and tell him you have had enough of this interference with your couple time.

SaxonMan

I am a photographer. It should be quite evident whether he is taking the shots for aesthetic reasons, or some more sinister reasons. It should be evident in the shots.

I'm not very comfortable with "candid" shots like this, but they are perfectly legal. Here is an example:

I once took a shot of young boy sitting cross-legged on a sea wall, deeply engrossed in a comic book. I felt slightly uncomfortable taking this shot, but the scenery (which composed most of the shot), was beautiful and the juxtaposition of the sea, the boats, and this boy oblivious to it all told a story.
That's the key. For someone interested in photography, the shots should be telling a story.
I'm betting that these shots are pretty much full-frame shots of the women. That's not about photography. It seems to me to be some kind of voyeurism.

I think you're well within your rights to demand that he stops. He's also asking to get a whole can of "whoop-ass" opened on him.

anonymous

I hope his shots are artistic like this. But his shots are just women in bikinis. He would also take photos of beautiful scenery but still he never forget to take shots of women in bikinis even if he knows that it will hurt me. He would be pretending taking shots of our kid when he was really trying to take photos of those women. Until now, were not talking. He's giving me the silent treatment after I emailed him why I'm acting this way. I gave him the silent treatment after I saw the photos of this women in bikinis but he doesn't even asked why I'm acting this way that is why I just emailed him to say everything in my chest. He did not answer my email and just acting as if he doesn't care. for me, this means that he doesn't want to stop this practice. I was thinking actually if my reaction on this issue is natural or i am just being a very jealous wife. I don't know of there will be other wives out there who would just ignore this practice.

Victoria

Hey there, i don't think there is other women who would be comfortable with this. It sounds very rude. Did he do that before you got married? You are not being overly jealous. I can understand that you want to the center of his attention instead of other women.

anonymous

he's doing that every time we go for a family vacation and other events that we attend to that incidentally have some sexy and beautiful women.

marriagehelp12

I agree with Victoria, I don't know one woman who would be comfortable with this rude picture taking...why should you.

MsStacy

Tell your husband it hurts you and he has three choices: 1)stop taking photos of other woman immediately, 2)leave the camera at home, or 3)you will trash the camera into tiny pieces until he can show you the respect you deserve!

No, you're not over reacting at all!

MyKidsMom

Hi there, my H use to do this also, he never took pic's of my but of everything else and then you would get to the pic's of the gal's and then you would see 20 of the same gal uggggggg. And all I got was she just ened up in the pic. I have no advice only that get a back bone and tell him to stop cause it is disrepectful. And if he does not then get your own camera and start taking pic of 6pk abs if thats what you like. I went in and deleted all of his pic's not a nice thing to do but, it did make me feel better.

Just talk to him and let him know that this is unexceptable.

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