the whole boundary, the other person shouldnt be disrespectful, but the person in the relationship can reject it, depending the situation. so i agree with that too! glad your husband has enough respect for you to do so
the whole boundary, the other person shouldnt be disrespectful, but the person in the relationship can reject it, depending the situation. so i agree with that too! glad your husband has enough respect for you to do so
Yes my husband respects me and our marriage. I've never once felt threatened by the women he helps. I know my husband well. That's just his nature and there is no way I would take that away from him.
Now if he is helping a super model on a regular basis I might have to put a stop to that.
Totally innapropriate. She should be asking you not him. No he shouldn't be taking her to pick up her car, she should ask you, and if she's not comfortable with that then it shouldn't happen. Posted via Mobile Device
Sounds like you think that any contact between neighbors of the same sex is just a pretext to flirt or worse? So the woman who lives next door to me has to wait until my wife comes home from shopping to ask her if I can un-stick the gate latch even though I'm standing right there tending my own yard? I would be pissed if my wife thought she should be able to exert that kind of control over me, and also that she didn't trust me with another woman. Heck, I'm in the workplace 50 hours a week, why not worry about that, too.
The fact is, I'm helpful to my neighbors and they are helpful to me. There's nothing more to it. And one great payoff is that we've had a few blizzards that represented hours of shoveling by hand where one of my neighbors came over with his big a$$ snowblower and did my entire driveway. Works for me.
She never calls or texts, maybe twice a year and I really like her, she is a very nice lady but again like I've said before on other posts this neighborhood is just too close. They all have each others cells numbers, just very strange.
We ALLLLLLLL BUNDLEEEEE!!!!!
OK sorry I couldnt help that. Yes speak up !!!!! Posted via Mobile Device
Sounds like you think that any contact between neighbors of the same sex is just a pretext to flirt or worse? So the woman who lives next door to me has to wait until my wife comes home from shopping to ask her if I can un-stick the gate latch even though I'm standing right there tending my own yard? I would be pissed if my wife thought she should be able to exert that kind of control over me, and also that she didn't trust me with another woman. Heck, I'm in the workplace 50 hours a week, why not worry about that, too.
The fact is, I'm helpful to my neighbors and they are helpful to me. There's nothing more to it. And one great payoff is that we've had a few blizzards that represented hours of shoveling by hand where one of my neighbors came over with his big a$$ snowblower and did my entire driveway. Works for me.
i wouldnt say it has to do with control.
helping is fine, but not when she is texting...
and if his wife is home then yes she should ask her.
for a long car ride? another man and woman....
oh by the way will you come take care of my cat for me...
oh and happy birthday...
Totally innapropriate. She should be asking you not him. No he shouldn't be taking her to pick up her car, she should ask you, and if she's not comfortable with that then it shouldn't happen. Posted via Mobile Device
Our power went out 11 last night. 9 this morning she texts him from work asking of the power is on yet. Ruined my morning. Just about at my limit with him and everything. Thinking of just leaving and living with my folks for awhile.
Here is my take. I was brought up in a traditional setting. 3 kids, great 60's childhood, great memories and my folks going on their 59th anniv. My dad would never ever think about texting or calling another woman. That is the example I had of marriage. My husband on the other hand? Hid dad died when he was 12, mom never remarried, he had no example of anything male or father oriented except for an older brother who more or less took over.
I feel texting the opposite sex is inappropriate. I would never do it and feel good about it. I know for a fact this woman is not after my husband, yes it still bothers me, but I know the last thing she wants is an overweight, hairy little man in her bed. LOL
It still irks me when she texts tho!!! Why if I know it won't lead to anything. The close to the neighbors thing is another thing I never dealt with. We were brought up it's ok to help your neighbors but not be in their lives to the extent where you call them everyday for help. Once in a while of course but NOT EVERY DAY!!! This woman does not do that, now the little 91 yr. old a few doors down? She does call everyday which gets tiring but my hubby should of known it would come to that . She irks me too, I think I see it as taking away from our time especially if we are in the middle of a discussion or something else.
Why is she texting him and not you? There is nothing that she has asked of him that she could not ask of you. We are on friendly terms with all of our neighbors and none of their wives texts me instead of my wife. Also, none of the husbands texts my wife instead of me. Just like when you are trying to date someone, she is fishing (making excuses to make contact) and it looks like she has your husband on the hook. You have a right to put a stop to it now. Do not back down on this as the longer it goes one the harder it will be to stop.
Why is she texting him and not you? There is nothing that she has asked of him that she could not ask of you. We are on friendly terms with all of our neighbors and none of their wives texts me instead of my wife. Also, none of the husbands texts my wife instead of me. Just like when you are trying to date someone, she is fishing (making excuses to make contact) and it looks like she has your husband on the hook. You have a right to put a stop to it now. Do not back down on this as the longer it goes one the harder it will be to stop.
I moved into his house, his neighborhood. He has known her for 20 years. I have known her for 4. I guess that is why.
We were brought up it's ok to help your neighbors but not be in their lives to the extent where you call them everyday for help. Once in a while of course but NOT EVERY DAY!!!
Yes this is a problem. Been there with my husband. It wasn't him cheating that concerned me it was that he was putting others before me and our kids. He couldn't say no so I put my foot down and said it for him. He's better now about checking with me FIRST before he helps someone now.
Wasn't trying to rain on his parade but I was NOT okay with him spending that much time helping others at our expense.
Our power went out 11 last night. 9 this morning she texts him from work asking of the power is on yet. Ruined my morning. Just about at my limit with him and everything. Thinking of just leaving and living with my folks for awhile.
did he text her back?
IMO, he needs to delete the number from the phone and put a block on it if it keeps happening.
i think you should walk next door and tell her she is having inappropriate behavior. afterall, you are the one hurting and shes not even caring that shes overstepping boundaries!!!
but she doesnt know how you are feeling either. make it known. i feel that you will feel much better once you get it out of your system with her!
Something tells me this neighbor is bad news. She doesn't text him, maybe 2-3 times a year, but she texted him 2-3 times in one day?? I dunno, I'd look into their communication more if I were you ..
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