04-23-2009, 01:43 PM
| | feeling unappreciated
Hey Everyone! I'm new here and just feeling down with how I've been treated. I don't know who else to talk about my husband with because i have few friends. If anybody has any suggestions of what i can do I'd very much appreciate it! well here it goes. I've been married for 4 years now and we have a 4 year old daughter. i work part-time and my husband works full-time. i stay at home during the day with my daughter so we don't have to pay for daycare. Problem is I'm the only one who takes care of everything. All the chores, paying bills, waking up early with my daughter. My husband works overnights and i usually don't mind getting up early when he's gone. two months ago he was sick and was out of work for a week. well that week turned into two months. and for the two months he hasn't helped out, sleeps in till two. then complains that he's tired and goes and takes a nap. At night I've asked him if he'd be willing to get up and he says yes. but when the time comes, he's sleeping. there's no appreciation. I'm just hurt by the fact that he cannot help me even though he's been home for the past two months. i've tried talking about this with him, he just gets defensive and starts telling me he's not like my dad who's a loser and has his wife support him because he can't work. every argument that we have it leads to him pointing out all of the things he hates about my family. one other thing i don't understand is when it comes to birthdays and holidays, he has no problem getting his mom, dad, sister, and uncle something for their birthdays, mother and fathers day, and christmas. but when it comes to me, he does nothing. and its really hurtful when i search for things for him. I've given plenty of thoughtful gifts, but why nothing in return? i know gifts aren't important. but putting forth the effort for someone else is. i continue to do that but receive nothing in return. anybody know what i'm going through and what did you do to help yourself feel better?