I feel suffocated by my husband.
My husband has worked at home the entire 10 1/2 years we have been married. We have two children, 7 and 9, who are on summer break right now. I honestly cannot tell you the last time I was home alone. My husband is home all the time! Every day I feel like I'm sneaking away to different areas of our house to get away from him. He kind of follows me around. His office is on our second floor and he'll just randomly come downstairs all day long. I'm constantly being interrupted no matter what I'm doing. We've talked about it in marriage counseling but with him it's in one ear and out the other! And he gets so offended! If I'm crabby and irritable, he seems to hover even more! At least the kids kind of stay away, knowing Mommy needs some air. But not Daddy! He stares at me, tip toes around me and asks what's wrong. Honestly I feel like saying,
"You're smothering me! Go somewhere!"
He can always go - like to a coffee shop or whatever. All he needs is his laptop and cell phone. MY job IS the home! I can't clean my home and take care of my kids somewhere else! What I can do is leave by myself and go shopping or something but I don't always want to and I don't totally trust him to watch the kids! He goes up to his office and closes his door. He can't hear them or see them. That's not watching them.
He knows I feel like this but maybe not to this extent. We'll joke, "Going on a trip anytime soon, honey?" I don't see any light at the end of the tunnel. He's always going to work at home. I'm homeschooling my daughter now so I can't get a job outside the home. I've thought about suggesting to him that he rent a little office somewhere but I know he'll never fork out the money for that and he'll just get all offended and wounded.
I do love him, no doubt. He's my best friend, a wonderful husband and a great father. There are a lot of pros to having him at home, too. I just wish he wasn't home sooooo much!
Has anyone out there been in this situation? Does anyone have any kind, understanding advice? I would greatly appreciate it.