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show up to one of the clubs she attends with her "mom" unexpectidly.

MrK

That.

But seriously, it is awfully good of you to be OK with your wife dating other men. Are you allowed to date other women too?

Married in VA

Professor,
As I have said many times before, you too will need to reach into your wife's purse, remove your testicles and reattach. When you do that you need to do the following.

1. Sit your wife down and tell her that these "outings" are unacceptable. Either you will be attending with her or she won't be going. If she shows resistance, you ask her to pack her stuff and leave immediately. She won't leave?, then you implement the 180, cut off all her money, access to cars, etc.
2. You take her phone from her. First you ask for it and if she says no and won't give it to you, you wait for her to put it down, go to bed, etc. Then you go through it and find evidence of the affair. Also, key logger on the computer and VAR on your person at all times to protect against false domestic violence charges. If her phone is locked you have your answer right there, then.
3. You tell your wife that the affair ends now or you will be filing for divorce. You let her know that you WILL gather evidence of her A and use it as leverage in court to get the house and primary custody of children. This may not happen in real life but the threat of it is usually enough to snap a WS back to somewhat reality.
4. If no evidence of an A is found, go back to step 1.

Expect a harsh reaction to your demands when you make them but if you don't, she will continue to lose respect for you and one day she will meet an OM and you will be history. Oh yeah, and,

DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES MOVE OUT OF YOUR HOUSE!
I can't stress this enough. Remember the following saying:
YOU MOVE, YOU LOSE! You lose the house, you lose custody, you lose your money. Best of luck.

heartsdelight

Moms (your kids' or your wife's) do not need to be regularly staying out til well past midnight. It's irresponsible and disrespectful to you and your kids. If it was every now and then with friends, a birthday party here, girl's night out there, sure, but several times a week? Unacceptable.

What do your kids think when she leaves them at night? If she is a SAHM or even if she works, it's understandable to want a break from the mommy role, but not at the expense of your family, relationship, and kids' wellbeing.

She needs to grow up and stop acting like a sorority girl prancing around with a fake ID.

And stripper shoes on a wife? Only in the bedroom or in a consensual setting WITH YOU. Wedding band or no, she wants action. No other reason.

Jellybeans

This is not ok at all. Tell her she needs to tell you where she is at during the wee hours of the morning but more importantly, put your foot down.

This isn't a marriage.

And what mother goes out with her duaghter til 4 a.m. to Da Club? WTF?

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Catherine602

Wear a condom and get a full STD profile

Apparently, she told you that she decided to stay and work on your marriage? It seems she has really decided to be single.

I can understand your confusion but it is as simple as that I think. She does have a nice set up. You work she plays. Do you really think that anything you have done requires that you pay her off??

You seem to be in shock but at some point you will need to pull yourself together and see your lawyer.

You sound truly remorseful for your transgressions. But please consider that no amount of damage to a marriage warrants this treatment.

Her only two choices are either to forgive you and have a real marriage or to be single. There is no hybrid choice nor right to punish.

Moreover, she is in no position to punish you since she seems have no problems in engaging in very bad behavior.

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