Wife Gone Wild
I am a workaholic. I have been "sober" (home before dinner) for three years now. But the damage to the family has been done.
My wife goes out with her Mom every Saturday night and stays out until 3-4 am. Her mom has been depressed, they say, and needs the time with her daughter. So my wife goes with her to a dance bar; most times with no wedding ring. She wears min. 6" pumps, and fancy clothes, plenty of perfume. Her mom says she keeps all the guys away. I think she is feeding off the attention anyhow, at best.
She is often at her friend's house 2-3 nights a week.
I work full time but if the kitchen isn't spotless when she comes home from her outings she is furious.
Once, twice, five times; I said nothing, but it's been 3 months and it's at LEAST once a week.
Last Sat. night she stayed home.
Sunday we fought and when I told her what we used to call those kind of heels, she lost it. She hasn't spoke to me since. It is Friday. She was out until 1am Sun, Mon., Tuesday, NOT with her Mom. No comment on where she was. No conversation at all.
In the last three months we went out on one date--for 1.5 hours. With me she's tired.
She also keeps her phone locked (since I checked it three years ago and found secret messages-she went nuts but she was spending a lot of time txting and none talking to me) and gets a lot of texts late at night. Am I a fool for thinking she is just angry?
Ladies, if there is hope, please show me how to get back in. We have kids; I don't want to put them through hell, but I'm there now.