Re: Tips on how to be a better wife.
OK, not trying to be cruel.
The behaviors you are acting out on are caused by the way you are responding.
He plays video games.
You get mad.
He doesn't want to deal with mad, so he plays more video games.
You get more mad.
You are trapped in a cycle. You need to break it.
First, find an outlet for aggression. Gym, softball, dance, whatever. Burn that energy out at the same time you give him some room and a reset of his own.
Second, go talk to somebody. Once it's physical, your opening a very dark future. One call to the law and your entire life will change for the worse.
Third, accept that there has been damage done and the will need to be a repair time. Every positive action counts as a +1. Every negative action counts as a -10.
Fourth, be honest with yourself. It is time to evaluate if this person is really the one you want to be with. If not, its time for a change. If yes, its time for a change. Either way, you know its time for a change.
Learn to walk away.
Learn to shut it down.
Learn to not say anything.
The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?
OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on.