Why can't I hate him??

preso · 06-11-2009, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by GAsoccerman

not the tattoo?? The cardinal rule is to NEVER EVER put someone's name on your body!

I have our last name and family crest from Ireland.

It's a "cover all" for my wife and children

So when my wife says, how come you won't tattoo my name on your body?" I reply" I do have it, your last name!"

hehe

As far as my tats... I have never had a name.
I have had some coverups and I like them very much

GAsoccerman · 06-11-2009, 02:31 PM

I wanted to do a sexy one of my wife in a naughty school girl outfit with horns and a devilish tail and a naughty look.....she vetoed the idea...

Would love to have it though

Blonddeee · 06-15-2009, 10:25 AM

I agree with the never getting a tattoo of a name... a long time ago I dated a guy that had his ex-girlfriends name on his chest... right over his heart- gag

She told him that she was going to do the same for him, but never did...

outinthecold · 06-16-2009, 12:09 AM

Have you read the book, "The Giving Tree" I'm getting a tattoo of the art from that book.

So many times I feel like the stump but from now on I'm going to be the mighty tree with four little girls catching apples in front of it.

Veronica Jackson · 06-16-2009, 06:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Blonddeee

I put up with his drinking, lies, and porn addictions for 6 years, we were married for 3 years and I finally got to the point that I knew I needed to move on and find someone that is ready to take on adult responsibilities. I finally filed after him not coming home one weekend with him out drinking, i got a text that he wouldn't be home and that was it. We don't have kids- thank goodness, I can't imagine how much worse this would be if we did. It's been a couple months and our court date is the end of June. We have been civil in person, when I filed I told him all i wanted was half the debt... which he has...tv...stuff in the house. I thought i was being fair and nice- well last week he went and filed a counter petition against me and he's asking for spousal maintenance- temp and permanent... he makes twice as much as i do so i know it's not going to happen, but I gave him everything, he also wants me to pay his legal bills, and give him all the keys to the house even though he wants to leave the loan in my name instead of refinancing the house.He has most of the stuff in it. I'm starting to get really angry becuase I put up with all his lies over the last 6 years and I'm still trying to be nice... I need to stop being nice- he's trying to screw me- having me take all the debt and support him... I just don't get it... I want to hate him, but I can still remember good things about him and feel bad about hating him... this sucks... i can't wait till this is over. I know from the way he's acting that I made the best decision ever by leaving... he's not the man i thought he was.

Stop thinking about the good things and start focusing on the bad ones. I had to quickly fall out of love as my rude husband ended our marriage on May 20, 2009!

Believe me when I say that I am the expert in faling out of love extremely fast. I took inventory of the negative things that made me frustrated, angry or sad. You are at war girl and its time you get your RPG's out. Do not give in to any of his wishes and grow a set of balls. Time to replace those good memories with the bad ones. Start thingking more about his alcohol abuse,the lies and what he does wen he don't come home.

outinthecold · 06-16-2009, 09:43 AM

Focusing on the negative will only make you negative.

Blonddeee, you have been a great help to me with my problem.

Let me say, follow your own quote

"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you learn to appreciate them when they're right. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself...and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together"

Focus on your future, visualize your future, work towards your future.

Be positive
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You have your whole life ahead of you.

As Doctor Phil says, "You will remember this as something you did once, nothing else"

Blonddeee · 06-17-2009, 10:15 AM

Thank you for the words of wisdom

I've been really happy lately... its weird because I didn't think I would feel this happy after leaving, maybe it's because he's being such an idiot right now that it makes me know that I made the right decision, didn't waste anymore time with him and I'm free to move on now. I did go to my lawyer last week and I asked for half... of everything... he's not going to like that, but he doesn't deserve me being nice to him anymore... so I'm just going to take what the law says I can have. Court is next week- yay!!!

recent_cloud · 06-17-2009, 12:51 PM

just remember:

our judicial system is an adversarial system for good reasons.

your attorney is your advocate. let your attorney do the job you hired your attorney to do and fight for whatever your attorney thinks is worth fighting for.

and the judge will decide in the end what's legal, and hopefully, what's legal will bear some resemblance to what's fair.

other than that, be thankful you never got a name stain.