bkaydezz

So...i was just informed that i am not sexy, but i look good!!!

GTFO!!!!!!!!!!!

im so disgusted right now.

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HopelesslyJaded

This sounds like a conversation I had at the gym one day with one of the male members. He was telling me that pretty doesn't always mean sexy and he used his wife as an example!

He said he thought his wife was one of the most beautiful women he knew but that her friend so and so was sexy.

that_girl

Well, if it wasn't your husband or SO who said this, why should you care? Do you think you're sexy? Do you feel sexy? Are you treated sexy by your man?

Then who cares what others think.

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Lon

says who bk? your H? maybe you need to wrestle him until one of you submits, then ask him if he thinks you are not sexy.

costa200

Beautiful and sexy are not the same. You're having problems with that notion?

Gaia

Sounds like his wife oughtta slap him upside the head!
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Gaia

But they can be with some cases!
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HopelesslyJaded

She would have to know he said it.

This is just one of the several things he's said in the last few months that I am positive his wife would not like.

costa200

Yes they can and often are. But it's really two different scales.

HopelesslyJaded

I would be curious to see if you could produce an example of beautiful but not sexy. Can you find a pic of one?

FirstYearDown

I asked my husband what the difference is between cute, sexy and beautiful.

His response: "A cute woman is attractive in a very sweet way that makes you want to snuggle her. A sexy woman makes you want to take her to bed immediately and a beautiful woman is hard to take your eyes off of because she is so gorgeous. You are ALL three, my love. On our wedding day, I was in tears because you were so beautiful. When I watch you sleep before I go to work, you are very cute. You are sexy when I come home and you are in lingerie with heels."

Awww...

Lon

Sandra Oh?

Also as witnessed in the olympic games, many of the female athletes were certainly not sexy, though pretty much all were exceptional physical specimens.

that is a tough question though, since both are subjective... I agree they are 2 different things.

heartsbeating

What's sexy and looks good is up to interpretation. If you feel sexy within yourself, you won't seek the validation. Easier said than done, as most of us like to feel sexually desired and accepted. But not needing the validation is sexy within itself *head explodes*

Why are you disgusted?

And also, who said this to you, what was the context? Any chance they're goading you into "I'll show them how sexy I can be!" lol, because it seems the comment really got to you. Be aware of who's validation you're seeking.

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Gaia

I think it comes down to a ... "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" sort of thing... same goes for cute and sexy....


Btw... love your h's POV firstyear!
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FrenchFry

I've asked what is the difference many many times!

I think sexy is something that is materially attainable. Paint on the smoky eyes and the dramatic lips, bust out the lace wonderbra and the tiny dress with the giant heels, big (fake) hair and fake eyelashes and I think most women can do "sexy" to at least some degree.

Tell me if I'm wrong though with my example here:

Cute:


Beautiful


Sexy: