I love this topic. It's truly shows an INCREDIBLE double standard. I'm wondering how many of the women complaining about their men looking at other women were there on opening night of Magic Mike. Or the women who complain about their men looking at porn, were in 50 shades of grey book clubs.
I am not a double standard woman, I fully understand my husband enjoys a quick look - and heck, I am visual too. I see this as just being human, and it shows our hormones are working as they should, nothing more -unless we take it over some threshold in oogling -as is being discussed here.
We are so open with each other on this sort of thing..... some women might CRINGE.... but in this -it gives us freedom and even acceptance of each other, if that makes any sense at all. Neither one of us has ever felt "disrespected", so for us, we are good.
We also enjoy some porn together (never watch it alone), I so enjoy a HOT R
or Unrated amorous scene, a steamy lusty romance novel too.
These things make the world go round...a little fantasy...it's all good....I wouldn't down myself for it.
He downloads Playboy Bunnies, whatever floats his boat, he ironically doesn't get off to any of them ...but waits for me every time, he has been this way our entire marraige...... so how can I complain. Love him for that.
My husband went with me to see Magic Mike
...Of course I enjoyed that more than him -but he thought the plot was decent.
Was another thread with this very subject....alot of the men got chewed out in it. >>> Is this the way men really think...?
I think Unbelievable's answer (page 12) was the most balanced of how a Man thinks...what automatically goes through his head... I asked my husband , even our oldest Worship Leader son, they both had similar views as to this....Unbelievable said
I have already said that fixating on a woman (ie, imaging an actual sex act with her or fantasizing about her stripping) is a bit creepy and, of course, that is a choice. My point is that there is an immediate "yes", "no", "Maybe if I was drunk" sort of selection going on for the briefest of nanoseconds in every male brain (at least the straight ones).
Having been male for nearly 50 years, I have been "listening" to "yep", "nope", "no way in hell", etc every day for at least 40 years. Of the thousands of guys I have worked and lived closely with, they all seem to have the same thing going on. Naturally, only a creton would attempt to act on those thoughts and one would be sort of a perv to dwell on the subject and create disgusting mental scenarios.
I'm a Christian and I'm married. Neither experience rendered me blind or oblivious to my surroundings. The OP asked how men thought and I've given the most honest answer I can.