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Old 09-21-2012, 10:32 AM   #1 (permalink)
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well being as their are a lot of guys that don't do it properly how would you women like for us to intinate sex?

and I think alot of guys would like if their wives intinated sex more often.

I would like my wife to put something sexy on (maybe a see through sun dress) and just come up to me and grab my package and say I've been thinking about you all day and slowly start undressing me and a litltle oral and then just climb on and sit on my face.
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Old 09-21-2012, 11:50 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Wouldn't we all love type of greeting from the missus. Ain't happening in my bed lie that but I still like your initial question.

I know that when I rush right into it (even if its been established earlier that we will have sex), my wife gets annoyed. She would rather lay there, watch a little TV and talk for a spell. She also would rather i give her a little massage or back scratch.

So I do my best to go through the motions (I do love her so I like doing these things) but I'm laying there trying to be nice with a steampipe in my shorts.

So it would be interesting to hear from the wives on here what is the safest (and quickest) way to initiate?
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Old 09-21-2012, 12:34 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I prefer when she just does it. No talking about it, no hinting, just bend over at the waist and start unzipping and open wide. When she asks I sometimes say no, because I feel weird with her asking. But when she just starts doing it (like last night and this morning) then I never say no and always enjoy myself.
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Old 09-21-2012, 01:23 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I would like my husband to do something, ANYTHING, that makes me feel desired. Rather than sitting back and waiting to see if I am 'in the mood'. I have told him in no uncertain terms that I am pretty much always 'in the mood', yet he seems to think he has to have my permission each and every time before he will allow himself to come on to me.
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Old 09-21-2012, 03:08 PM   #5 (permalink)
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He already initiates in ways I like, just not as much. I prefer he just bend me over some furniture. Or find myself waking up to him flipping me over.

My way of initiating is very direct. I'll start kissing him passionately then start stroking, then head south. Or just randomly walk in the room naked. Or start giving him a BJ while he's sleeping (as you can tell, I'm a midnight pervert).
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Old 09-21-2012, 04:28 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I would like my wife to put something sexy on (maybe a see through sun dress) and just come up to me and grab my package and say I've been thinking about you all day and slowly start undressing me and a litltle oral and then just climb on and sit on my face.
This is ALL me - love grabbing that package & working it UP ...minus the sitting on his face -- no, I want him to push me there - -still waiting for that.... my husband can be too timid in these things.... He says he wants that/ swears it ....but he doesn't take the initiative to put me in these positions...or tell me he wants it - like NOW. I guess I am just a little reserved there, I want to feel his clammering for it- the way I do for him. Dagone him! I think I am going to remind him of this tonight, tell him about your post, ask if he wants this (though he has said before he does)... why do I feel funny, I don't know!

The type of initiating I want is more aggressive than what he does... I want him to flirt with me...show his need... tell me what he wants to do to me, push me down on the bed / up against a wall- feeling his bulge... lean tightly into me , kissing my neck, opening my shirt... .... I'm freaking dreaming , ha ha

It's Ok, not like I am going to throw him to the curb, but I'm the Casanova in this marriage. If he didn't LOVE that, we'd have a real problem on our hands, but since he eats it up...I'm still smiling I KNOW he wants to be there.

All I really want is a HARD man ready to go ....so I can take that gear shift and drive him. I love a little verbal to add to the thrill of the physical delight...the bending me over sounds good too. I have to get him going many times - just cause ...well ....we do it too much, I keep him drained (my fault I guess)... If he was 25 again....I'd be in Heaven....I'd get that HARD man a couple times a day.

Wish I had a damn time machine. Not complaining, Life is good.

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Old 09-21-2012, 05:47 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I love it when I know H is wanting me early in the day. Flirty texts, brushing up against me, lots of catching my eye and smiles over dinner... I just know what he's thinking...the smile tells me it's naughty!

My h is a fun (funny) guy, foreplay is fun, the sex is fun.
We play, we tickle, we laugh... I look forward to it so much it doesn't really take much to initiate I suppose.

A wink and nod will do it for me
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My wife has this funny way of " jumping" me sometimes when she initiates.
It always turns me on and on reflection, makes me chuckle.
The first time we ever kissed, it was her " jumping me " the least when I expected it,and I cannot ever forget it! I went by her home one morning to drop off something,stayed about 5 mins, and when I was leaving I felt her hand grabing my arms.I spun around,and as I opened my mouth to say yes ,BAM! her mouth was on mine and her arms around my wait.

Sometimes when I'm dressed and about to leave , she will suddenly decide that she wants it NOW.
Recently ,I was about to leave to go to the gym, around 5 AM in the morning. I thought she was sleeping,I was on the couch checking my emails. Out she comes from the bedroom,straddles my lap,and starts to unbuckle my belt....

But I must admit,
I love it when she initiates by " jumping " me!
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I like the way he flirts and initiates. It took working through other aspects of our relationship to get back on track.....but whoa Nelly! He's more assertive, experimental, assertive and lighthearted since we went through that. I love it.

A simple comment in the morning can stay with me during the day, and when it's followed up with flirtatious texts that's even better. He keeps my fire lit.

This week getting ready before work, I was quickly putting my earrings on, thinking about if I'd packed all my work-out clothes, was checking the time, when he came up behind me and slowly caressed around my hips and back and I heard mmm and he said how shapely and sexy I looked. Something as simple as that I'll remember. It's not just the comment, it's the tone in his voice, that he touched me, and the look that followed.........phwoar. A different morning, I was putting on my pantyhose, dense black opaque style, and thought he was still in the bathroom. I was pulling them up and kicking my legs out lol. Not sexy. He opened the door at that moment and I laughed and told him not to come in. He stood in the doorway and said "Oh no, I'm not going anywhere, that look is extremely sexy.." and it wasn't sarcasm lol. I guess even in the usual rush of trying to get out the door in the morning, I like that he tells me these things and it seems to kick off the day for us in that way if we haven't awoken early enough for intimate time.

We were couching and he took my socks off and was giving me a foot/calf rub. To me it was massage, needed for my sore feet. I didn't relate it to being sexual. It's loving and caring to me. Then he expressed that he found it sexy to be rubbing my legs and feet and started kissing around my ankles......nice.

I recognize that his schedule is different to mine; he's usually jumping meeting to meeting, and at the moment he's stressed. He's aware of not bringing that home often but if he doesn't respond for a while to a flirtatious text I send, I don't take it personally. He prefers the more subtle/teasing style than straight up dirty. I like the variety of both and I guess that would be something I'd enjoy more of but I like his style and that he can open up that way in the boudoir. The other night he picked me up from work. We'd been flirting slightly during the day, he got out of the car, walked towards me, wrapped his arm around my waist and we snogged before saying hello. I love that. He said on the way home that he'd left his laptop at work because he wanted us to have "foxy" time together......(which related to something I'd said that morning)
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Old 09-21-2012, 08:25 PM   #10 (permalink)
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After years of doing without I don't care how he does it. Just do it!! LOL
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Old 09-21-2012, 10:15 PM   #11 (permalink)
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flowers at work that day.
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A card left in my car in the morning...
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make me dinner (or take me out!!)...
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Candles lit & start with a nice backrub.
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draw me pictures like you used to do



Then... it'll all work out wonderfully.
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To much work for everyday sex with a woman I'm already married to.
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I'll do those things sometimes because I like to. But not as a way to initiate sex with my wife.
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^ Same

But then she complains about being "left hanging" -.-
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^ not sure who's posts you're referring to but I'm adding that I also like when he's just assertive. I like that he shows his desire for me. No-one else in this world gets to do that. We're that for each other.

The flirtation and build-up can make the interaction more intense/sexier. I don't require it but I seem to constantly desire him, so I'm thinking partly that's the way I am and partly it's the way he is with me.

I don't relate to the posts where wives complain they feel groped and such.
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