preso

If your in contact with your parents and only 21, I'm sure they will help you or at least help you move somewhere closer to a doctor... as your preg and will need not only medical care but a way to get to the hosptial when its time to have the baby... and a million things before then.
I doubt no matter how traditional your parents are, they are NOT going to let you starve to death, more so since your preg.
Far as help, seek it from people you already know or you could end up in a far worse place than you already are.
Your parents should be at the top of the list as your just 21.

johnamos

Thank you for clarification, no not troller meant.

I know many military people and was thrown back by your post as support is #1 even in a falling apart relationship.

No do not feel that way

preso

also check into womens shelters
should he try to keep you from seeking
medical care with your preg...

Peridot

But you said he was very very good with her? Does she have any health insurance right now?

nightshade

Whether or not she is, it's no legitimate reason for his behavior.

MarkTwain

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It's hard to tell from only hearing one side, but from the way you tell it, he sounds beyond controlling - he sounds mentally ill. However little you care about your own happiness, you still have a legal (and moral) duty of care to your young ones. Think about that.

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Peridot

Well, there can be reasons - I have a friend that refuses to stock any food in the house because if it is in the fridge or the pantry, his wife will eat it. He said that once he bought a bucket of KFC, dropped it off to go get something else, came back, and she had eaten the entire thing! Didn't leave him a wing!

But I digress... I agree with MT here - it sounds like a mental illness. Has he been evaluated? Working on base, one would think that is standard practice.

There is no reason he is treating you the way he is.

I'm not advocating risking your well being - but have you tried standing up for yourself?

Doing things like witholding food and imprisoning you (by disabling the car) ARE abuse. He doesn't need to hit you to be abusive!!!

1nurse

WHY did you marry this person??? Do you like to be treated with disrespect and controlled? Did you think you didn't deserve any better? Or were you just desperate to get married to have a father for your child? You are still very young and unfortunately have made some bad decisions with your life. I don't see this union lasting at all. You need to make some serious decisions about the direction your life is going to go and how to handle raising your children. See a therapist ASAP. Do not tell your husband. Try to gain some perspective as to why you're in the pickle your in. Sounds to me like your husband isn't going to change. You need to leave him but do it when the time is right and you've got a plan in place. Hammer out the visitation and support issues later.

Sensitive

I can't believe this is the second post about a pregant woman getting no support from her husband. I agree with previous replies that some of the stunts he has pulled are abusive. If you can't muster up the strength to help yourself, at least do it for the children.

preso

I can hardly believe a poster on this thread asked this woman if the reason he was witholding food, was because she was overweight.

what a freakish question, it is mind boggling what some people
will think and say !
you should be ashamed of yourself to ask this or even think it.