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Old 07-22-2009, 12:05 PM   #346 (permalink)
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bah. happiness is overrated.
Than why are you here? lol
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Old 07-22-2009, 12:14 PM   #347 (permalink)
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Like the man said, you eat cake everyday

Some days you have frosting

It is good to get up every morning,
have million dollar legs,
brush your own teeth,
chew your own food,
have kids that love you,
able to hug,
have most of your hair,
be able to see your own ah, stuff below when you look down (bellies get in the way)
be pain free,
be able to eat,
be able to scratch your back with either hand,
go to the bathroom on your own,
smell flowers,
watch a child play,
hear laughter,
be able to clap,
or just to live

Count yourself lucky if you can do all the above, a lot of people can't
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Old 07-22-2009, 12:18 PM   #348 (permalink)
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Goatz

The future is so far away

I am just living day to day

Planning for someday

Feelings may come back one day

But not today

Today, I'm just having a good day

Yes, today is a good day
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Old 07-22-2009, 12:48 PM   #349 (permalink)
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Enjoy life to the fullest, if it is not meant to be, so be it. Hold onto your kids and love yourself. You will find meaning again.
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Old 07-22-2009, 02:17 PM   #350 (permalink)
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Rhea, you have people in your life in the cusp of happiness, get a piece of it.

Help out with the wedding, or anniversary or birthday.

Talk to people in a good mood, it does rub off.

Concentrate on others, there are always people happier and sadder.

I give you warm hugs and a big cheek to cheek kiss like the Europeans do.
Yesterday I had a meltdown, it happens. I'm very happy for those on the verge of wedded bliss or those whom have just entered in...excited for them very. Babies, oh I love babies and my best friend is prego due in December...long time coming as her DD is 11...excited for and her new hubby and the DD to have a new life. I really am. I just got stuck on my own pity for a moment. Today I'm better. Still lonely. But I know my day will come. I'm just not a "looker" so I don't actively search for said mate. I believe they find their way into your life at the right time so who knows when that will be but I have faith that someday it will again be mine for the "loving"

Good to hear your doing well OITC keep it up.

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Old 07-22-2009, 09:13 PM   #351 (permalink)
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bah. happiness is overrated.
NO, IT'S NOT, GIRL!!! You need a night with Mr. Patron and another good friend!
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Old 07-22-2009, 09:16 PM   #352 (permalink)
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OITC, I can still see my feet! That's a good thing! Except for the legs thing...I'm good with ALL of that!
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Old 07-22-2009, 10:19 PM   #353 (permalink)
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I think that at a time like this you need family around. Is there anyone you can call that can watch your children while you try and get some sleep.

You may also want to make an appointment to see your doctor. Perhaps he can give you something to help you through this time, as you do need to be there for your children.

I've been there myself so know what I'm talking about. You're scared and probably feel like you're sinking. You just need some help to cope and believe me you'll get better and stronger.
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Old 07-23-2009, 10:49 AM   #354 (permalink)
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Mari, who are you talking to?

Me or someone else on this thread?

If it is me, I'm doing better today, then in months

The weight of emotions has been lifted

I'm comfortable with myself

It seems my soon to be ex-wife is the emotional roller coaster

She broke down again this morning (she came over to pick up the kids for their day together)

Talking about all sorts of emotional things between us when there is no us anymore

She keeps wanting me to meet someone, well I really really don't feel the need to meet someone.

I want more friends, but anything else I'll leave up to chance.

Friends, are really the key to life, I've made many friends here. I count on the daily conversations I have with people on this site as nurturing words I take onward in my journeys.

Everyone means well, I've only heard encouraging, loving, positive words.

Me, I'm doing rather well
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Old 07-23-2009, 10:54 AM   #355 (permalink)
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I give my ex- every opportunity to be with the kids as much as she wants.

No restrictions, either in my house or in her apartment or take them overnight or whatever she wants to do.

I even pay for their activities or meals or whatever comes up.

The kids need their mother, besides it gives me a chance to be alone.

Which I like being alone in the house.

I have not been alone since, like ever

Home, to the military, to college roommates, to back to the military, to being married with children for the past 20 years.

I like being alone

My stuff stays where I put it
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Old 07-23-2009, 12:46 PM   #356 (permalink)
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Maybe someday I will feel "Alone" but not today and certainly not tomorrow.

Somebody said, "There are no coincidences".

I'll find somebody someday, I'm a great catch for any lady, except for my ex-wife of course.

There is no going back now, too many things bother me about it.

My conscious is clear, I tried everything to keep it going.
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Old 07-23-2009, 06:41 PM   #357 (permalink)
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you may have a point LOL

I've been thinking too that love is highly overrated.
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Old 07-23-2009, 09:12 PM   #358 (permalink)
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I'll find somebody someday, I'm a great catch for any lady, except for my ex-wife of course.


Hey! Me too!
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Old 07-23-2009, 09:13 PM   #359 (permalink)
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well 'cept of course I'm a great catch for any man 'cept for my ex husband of course LOL
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well 'cept of course I'm a great catch for any man 'cept for my ex husband of course LOL
you were a great catch for your ex as well

he's just too much of an ass to have realized that.

and there's nothing worse than missing out on an amazing life
opportunity due to another's assheadedness.
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