the best thing i can say to you right now, is you dont want to be with someone, who doesnt want to be with you. Dont you deserve better than that. what is it about this other guy that she loves that you dont have? Its the oldest saying in the world, but time does heal everything. Just find joy in your kids now, and they need you to be there for them also. If you love someone, let them go. If they come back to you, they were yours, if they dont, they never were. Good luck.
My boys played soccer for nearly their whole lives (they wanted to play sports and I wouldn't allow football...they chose soccer). I do know what a sweet goal is! Seen hundreds of them! BTW, oldest son's "select" team had a 216, 6, 6 record! Both played all positions from striker to keeper...oldest settled into sweeper, youngest liked keeper.
OITC, I'm glad the fence was there! Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. No shame.
Hang in dude! I know what it feels like to see pix! That's how I found out about xgf's marriage. I know you felt sick! I left immediately and didn't even look at the rest of the pix.
Only you can decide when the no contact point is reached. Get there and ONLY deal with kid issues. Shut her out of your life as much as possible.
Through this experience, I have developed deep connections with people that I otherwise would never have had.
Richard, my best friend
Dave, my best online friend
Bob, my best oldest friend
Betsy, my best office friend and office wife
Ray, my best boss mentor friend
Cindy, my best HR friend
Chris, my best youngest friend
Lisa, my long lost friend
Sam, my best financial friend
Ted, my best youngest looking friend
Marge, my best mom friend
Yaz, my best can't find a man friend
Other friends upon friends that have reached out to me and offered me kindness.
I have changed, people say this all the time, often very hard to do.
I pay attention to people more, I am more patient with my children and just things in general. What energy you give out is what you receive back.
I have grown spiritually.
Karma is real, karma is all around.
I was in the pit of despair but I have steadily climbed my way out.
Wow! I'm new here.....wish I didn't have to be here at all, but that's my stupid mistake and a whole other story.
Anyway, I just wanted to say I have just spent the morning reading through all of your posts. I'm glad to see there were a lot of them, and that there has been some sort of conclusion to your situation. I don't think my heart could have taken reading your posts day by day and waiting to see how you were doing. It really was heartbreaking to read some of your posts.
I felt so much better when I read your posts when you were having good days! And to find out that you are taking care of your kids and working on YOU! You're going to make it, and I'm so proud of you for that. Hang in there!
There has to be light at the end of every tunnel....at least that is what I keep telling myself! Keep thinking the good things~~~
If you love her- FIGHT for her. Do not stand it any longer. Show her how you can love her. Get off your butt, turn off the computer, and so whatever it takes to get her back. Now- don't wait anymore- go!