outinthecold

My wife left me, I have a thread here about it. Right now I feel like drinking or banging my head on this keyboard until every keys leaves an impression on my face.

What do I do to eleviate this pain.

Obvious reason why she left me, I was selfish, a jerk. 24 years she endured this from me.

I never truly realized how much she means to me. My best friend is gone. Those old cliches are really true, you don't realize what you've got until it's gone.

Somebody help me, pleeaasseeeee!

Sufficiently Breathless

Take a deep breath..

Keep posting here, talk about it. Vent if need be.. there are loads of people here who can talk to you and help you through it.

What happened? Do you think you both can possibly work it out?

Talk to me, I'm here

Sensitive

I read all the threads you started and can't seem to uncover why you are separated. There are lots of people on this forum going through separation and divorce. I am very sorry that you are hurting.

outinthecold

It is just hard to make it thru an hour, I fill my time with watching movies for moments I can escape

outinthecold

I've known my wife since she was 17, we've had hard times.

We've had really good times.

She says I don't accept her, I don't accept what she says, she just wants to be heard.

I did all of these things.

We have four(4) children.

She wants to date a person she works with, right now.

We can't afford to divorce or even separate.

So I'm stuck, my two oldest are so angry at her.

She is about as stubborn as they come.

Her words, "I'm so gone from this relationship, I don't love you anymore"

It really is my fault, I don't know what to do.

outinthecold

I don't think I can save anything except my children.

It starts at my eyes and just keeps going down until I scream

outinthecold

Then I scream some more, and then some more

It just makes my face hurt.

Sufficiently Breathless

Sometimes it's no ones fault..

I imagine you did some things right being married for all those years.

You can not make her feel something she doesn't. But you can still continue to be there for her.. listen to her.. help her if needed. But remember to take care of YOU.. and of course the children

outinthecold

Yeah, my head is swelling again.

I guess the only thing keeping me from jumping off of the roof are the kids.

I'm tired, can't sleep, wake up in a few hours feeling the same thing.

I've run out of tissue

outinthecold

The two younger ones are sleeping on the couches after a funny movie.

They look so peaceful

I can't shield them from what is to come.

They are going to hurt so bad

Sufficiently Breathless

I'm sorry you are feeling this way.. I know it hurts. Wish there was more I could do or say to help you feel better..

Take a hot bath.. read a good book.. watch a movie.. do something to stop thinking about it continuously, perhaps that will tire your mind and you will get some rest.

outinthecold

Thanks there breathless, I can feel your words.

I just can't seem to act on them.

Sufficiently Breathless

Well if he is still married.. and so is she.. I can't imagine the outcome will be good..

However thats not to say it will work out for you.. sorry to say.

Remember to take each day one step at a time, try to get yourself out of the house and do something.. show her that YOUR life does continue on without her

outinthecold

The whole thing with her is that she still cares for me, wants the best for me, she says this all the time, but she has moved on.

I still love the image of her when we met.

The family we have is just the best.

outinthecold

I don't know if I want her to come back, I just want to stop wanting.

I don't even want somebody.

I can't stand this pain, making it thru another minute