Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?
 Talk About Marriage
  The Marriage Advice and Relationship Help Forums
  right
Forums - For Therapists - Link to Us - Advertise  

    A Public Forum Provided by The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory
Register FAQ Community Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

Navigation »Talk About Marriage »Talk About Family, Marriage and Relationships »The Ladies' Lounge » Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

The Ladies' Lounge Sharing and support.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 05-30-2009, 08:17 PM   #1 (permalink)
Registered User
 
Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 17
Default Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

Hi, Im knew here....
I have a question, how much is normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife? They have a child together...but they seem to talk alot..even if its not about their child. she calls him alot, not sure if he calls her...I thought that when you had an ex you only talked about the kids...? Am I wrong in that, and please feel free to let me know. I need all the advice that i can get. Thanks.
hubbys baby is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 05-30-2009, 10:17 PM   #2 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Maryland
Posts: 48
Default Re: Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

Why don't you know if he is calling her. Can you get his phone records? How long have you been married? Sounds like you have some snooping to do.
euphoria is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 05-31-2009, 12:05 AM   #3 (permalink)
Member
 
Sensitive's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Location: USA
Posts: 560
Default Re: Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

My husband has way too much contact with his ex. He claims the relationship is just for the daughter, and she is just a relative he dislikes. On the other hand, she is not remarried, and may be in love with him still. Recently, they joined a new hobby together. Now that the daughter is 18 and graduated, I still can't be relieved that the ex-wife is out of the picture. She now sees him 3 hours per week, without me, and without daughter. Now I feel pretty stupid. Maybe I was always second best. It is not uncommon or unhealthy to maintain friendly relations to co-parent. I just need to define where the line is.
Sensitive is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 05-31-2009, 12:15 AM   #4 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 1,730
Default Re: Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

I know two couples who are divorced, their kids are on my sport teams, but the ex-s all show up to the games and sit with each other and watch the games, so the husband is there with his girlfriend, the wife is there with her boy friend and they all sit there and watcht he gaems together.

I admire they get along and joke around to benefit the child.
GAsoccerman is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 05-31-2009, 01:10 AM   #5 (permalink)
Member
 
dcrim's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Republic (in the Ozarks), MO
Posts: 1,391
Default Re: Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

When my wife and I seperated...I didn't see her at all.

Once, several years ago, she came to see our daughter in MD and stopped by my apartment. That was the only contact in 13+ years.

She died this past January.

Relationships with exs is up to the people involved. And, to some extent, their SOs. If SO is uncomfortable, then no contact. They're an ex for a reason.
__________________
It ain't illegal until you're caught!
dcrim is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 05-31-2009, 04:14 AM   #6 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: east anglia england
Posts: 907
Default Re: Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

To be honest as much as it hurts you ,they have to have contact .. children are so much happier if the adults can deal with seeing each with out fighting .

Id say its fine as long as you get youe time together alone .
__________________
Not looking back again
humpty dumpty is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 05-31-2009, 07:52 AM   #7 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 2,295
Default Re: Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

It really depends on the people and situation, also the ages of the kids.

My husbands kids are older so he has no reason to have any contact with his ex...
although back a few years ago when we met, she would often call him on his cell and ask he return her call. Each time he did it was total nonsense, so he stopped returning her calls.

I was fortunate his ex was so full of nonsense because if she were nice and real in her calls, he may have kept talking to her.
But because of how she was, he cut off all communication, which was fine with me.
I think lots of ex's use the kids to manipulate the fathers, cause trouble in their new relationships, so you should speak to your husband about that... and his feelings about it.
Its even better to do this BEFORE you marry someone.
preso is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 06-01-2009, 04:27 PM   #8 (permalink)
Registered User
 
msadorable's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: ALABAMA
Posts: 4
Default Re: Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

I don't see why he have that much to conversate about..unless they have kids...other than talking about the kids....Not so OKAY!
msadorable is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 06-01-2009, 09:12 PM   #9 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 2,295
Default Re: Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

I don't think I mentioned...
if my H was talking to his ex a lot... I'd be very perplexed about it... even if his kids were little.
The exception would be a newborn with health problems, then I could see it... but otherwise, that he hell is he talking to her for hours about?
thats kinda crazy !........... he needs to look at the fact he has a new life now and to live accordingly. I'm sure if it were reversed and it was you talking to an old boyfriend or husband for hours on end, he wouldn't like it

which brings to mind, I dated someone like that once, he was with me and for many months, always talking to some girl on the phone. Come to find out, it was an ex and I didn't like it and it was a source of problems for us.

Guess he couldn't let go or something.
Who knows, but he was "creepy pathetic guy" in my book.. and how I will always think about him as that, because of the stuff like that he would do.
He was wacked out for sure.
preso is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 06-02-2009, 02:06 PM   #10 (permalink)
Registered User
 
Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 17
Default Re: Is it normal for my husband to have contact with his ex-wife?

Thanks for all the replies,, I really appreciate it.. .Now, about his daughter, she is a very spoiiled 8 yr old. She always gets what she wants becuz they want her to be happy. I have an 8 year old daughter as well, who is a very caring child. They get along for the most part, but the other one is very jealous of all of us, and we try to include my stepdaughter in everything. I want to know how to get more balance in our lives and somewhat of a more peaceful home situation...as Im sure i am looked at as the Evil stepmother...
Are their any other step moms out here that have some suggestions for me? I am out of ideas.....
hubbys baby is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.
User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Husband refuses to end contact with EA brokenbythis Coping with Infidelity 19 03-26-2013 01:07 PM
Husband in contact with x girlfriend simi General Relationship Discussion 1 03-19-2012 08:59 AM
Husband & Wife Sex - How often is normal? saya2saya Sex in Marriage 66 02-22-2012 02:00 AM
Husband's upcoming contact with ea's ow mssherlock22 General Relationship Discussion 1 11-11-2011 12:04 PM

Member Area

Find a Therapist:


Sponsor Ads


Sponsor Ads




Get The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory Help Guide via Email:
Name:
Email:




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 03:48 AM.



Copyright 2007 - 2013 © Talk About Marriage

SEO by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2 ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.